"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does a MySpace page set to private mean she has a b/f?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alphamale1821

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are you that ****ing stupid dude. I guess every chick who has a myspace set to private must have a b/f. It probably has nothing to do with just allowing anyone and everyone to see her profile instead of people she has added as friends.
 

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It just seems like all the girls I know who have boyfriends also have their myspace pages set to private.
 

Alphamale1821

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Why not you know maybe add the chick as a friend or simply send her a message thats what the add friend and send message comments are there for.
 

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I would strongly recommend anyone who has a career to set their myspace, facebook profiles to private. It's becoming a more common practice for employers to search their employee and potential employees on these sites to see if they can get insight on who they're dealing with, I know the company I work for does.

Seeing you in pictures at bars every weekend or doing dumb stuff is not the impression you want to give these people.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Effingtons right.

Some students created a facebook group making fun of an english teacher at my school. Due to this group, the teacher didn't get a job a college he applied for.

But i'm not even going to adress the first post, because he's making dumb generalizations so.. not even going to get into it lol.
 

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Depends.

You have to understand that one of the reasons they are private is to keep weirdos and pervs away.

If you message her and add her and come off in a non weirdo perv way, things should be fine.
 

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Stone, I just disagree. A lot of girls use pictures of themselves and their boyfriends for their portraits (the first pictures you see when you try to access their sites). I'm usually not just guessing when I determine that they're spoken for.
 

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Well then if you see they have a bf, then...don't add them?

I'm not sure which one of my posts that was in response to.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alkali

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If you know them, send your request. Find out if they have a boyfriend.

(If you must resort to clandestine operations, asking them isn't a bad thing by any means.)

If you don't, meeting women over Myspace is lame. Don't do it.

Problem solved.
 

penkitten

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private on myspace means that she has to make you her friend before you can see her page.
alkali is right, send the request and then you will find out.
 

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I've seen no difference in response rate between private and non-private. A lot of people with careers do have private profiles, I agree.

I think it makes you look better to have a lot of friends with private profiles, because it implies that those friends are not friend wh0res with 4,000 friends.
 

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Yeah, every single private female myspace is dark water for you. There will most definetely be a boyfriend involved, he will be big muscular and has 6 guns. The moment you try to add her, he will come and shoot you with all 6 guns.

Lesson of the day: Don't bother with girls with private myspaces, even if you have met them IRL
 

Alphamale1821

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Kev07 said:
Yeah, every single private female myspace is dark water for you. There will most definetely be a boyfriend involved, he will be big muscular and has 6 guns. The moment you try to add her, he will come and shoot you with all 6 guns.

Lesson of the day: Don't bother with girls with private myspaces, even if you have met them IRL
ROFL Kev07. Seriously OP this topic is ridiculous. Think of it this way if you were to simply click add and she accepted you then you could check her page to see if she has a boyfriend or not. Why the **** are you such a ***** to simply click add. So many people add random people anyway and most people simply add them back. If not simply send a message and see if you get accpeted.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Forms

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Turns out the internet is full of creepy perv guys (who knew?). Girls have to watch out for all kinds of crap we don't have to.

Thanks for reminding me I should turn mine on private now that I'm looking for a job again. Not that there's anything too bad on mine, but I doubt them looking at my page will ever HELP me get a job. It could probably only hurt.
 

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my girlfriend had it set to private when we first met and still has it set to private. She just doesn't want creepy guys friendsing her.

comic_relief
 

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Effington said:
I would strongly recommend anyone who has a career to set their myspace, facebook profiles to private. It's becoming a more common practice for employers to search their employee and potential employees on these sites to see if they can get insight on who they're dealing with, I know the company I work for does.

Seeing you in pictures at bars every weekend or doing dumb stuff is not the impression you want to give these people.
As an alternative, pretend you are the boss and critique your own site from their viewpoint, changing anything that doesn't agree. Quite frankly, if it would embarress the company, chances are its embarressing to everyone else too. A personal site can be done in good taste and not be inherently embarressing to anyone. For example, why have a myspace site where you look like a punk. Businesses don't want that image because no one wants to be associated with punks anyway; including women.
 

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We're conditioned to the idea of sucking up to employers, and to maximize options, that is what people do. But honestly, anyone who does not want to hire me because of my myspace page can fvck off.
 
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