MatureDJ
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Does a man's salary really matter?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LeftyLoosey
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Money's Important.
Money's important.
Money's important. Just "make you happy?" Is that all? I wonder how much that costs.
Oh, so that's why you won't date men who earn less than you? Because you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings???
Oh my...
Well apparently they go hand in hand for Haley, and I bet they do for you too. Oh, here comes Liz again:
I've never read such a hypocritical statement in my life.
This "article" is total drivel.
This is an other demostration that the liberated woman is just the same old woman who excect the same things but wants to put less than past.
We are still expected to put the money while she doesn't have anymore to stay at home or be in shape.
Anyway we don't have the right to complain because it's the same that most of us do,getting sex while giving nothing in return later in a relationship.
I'm talking about the fvck and dump crew obviously.
We are still expected to put the money while she doesn't have anymore to stay at home or be in shape.
Anyway we don't have the right to complain because it's the same that most of us do,getting sex while giving nothing in return later in a relationship.
I'm talking about the fvck and dump crew obviously.
LeftyLoosey
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Oh yah. it does...but it only matters when it comes to long term dating. I have had women who have expressly said they would never date a guy who makes less than X, still sleep with me when they knew I made less than X. It's just like with women, some you will sleep with some you marry, for a woman the ones you marry better have resources.
TheAsianLoverReturns
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This must be a popular article. Got me so worked up I made a video...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDO6rRSFCBA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDO6rRSFCBA
Jeffst1980
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I agree that it only matters for long term relationships.
Not being fiscally sound can be a dealbreaker in the long run. But...so can not wanting to get married.
I wouldn't worry excessively about money, because there will ALWAYS be someone richer than you. I'd worry about developing a compelling personality that women respond to, because that's what's going to get you through rough patches. You should, however, be able to support yourself comfortably.
Not being fiscally sound can be a dealbreaker in the long run. But...so can not wanting to get married.
I wouldn't worry excessively about money, because there will ALWAYS be someone richer than you. I'd worry about developing a compelling personality that women respond to, because that's what's going to get you through rough patches. You should, however, be able to support yourself comfortably.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Andy_Dufresne
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To answer the question, try this experiment, subjectively.
1. Go to Wal Mart and check out the women
2. Go to a high end mall in your city (i.e. where there is a Coach store, a Neiman Marcus) and check out the women.
3. Do a compare and judge for yourself.
1. Go to Wal Mart and check out the women
2. Go to a high end mall in your city (i.e. where there is a Coach store, a Neiman Marcus) and check out the women.
3. Do a compare and judge for yourself.
Zonder
Don Juan
As long as you make more than she does you'll be fine. Women subconsciously pay attention to that, whether they want to or not, so it gradually becomes an issue in LTR's.
cavedweller
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I have a saying:
Older women are only interested in M&M's..
ie:
Marriage and money..
Older women are only interested in M&M's..
ie:
Marriage and money..
squirrels
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How does money work? It's exchanged for goods and services. Meaning that you provide something of value to someone else, then they provide you with currency as compensation.
If you're not making that much money, how much VALUE are you really providing to the world?
If you're not making that much money, how much VALUE are you really providing to the world?