MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Does a man's salary really matter?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LeftyLoosey
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Money's Important.
Money's important.
Money's important. Just "make you happy?" Is that all? I wonder how much that costs.
Oh, so that's why you won't date men who earn less than you? Because you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings???
Oh my...
Well apparently they go hand in hand for Haley, and I bet they do for you too. Oh, here comes Liz again:
I've never read such a hypocritical statement in my life.
This "article" is total drivel.
This is an other demostration that the liberated woman is just the same old woman who excect the same things but wants to put less than past.
We are still expected to put the money while she doesn't have anymore to stay at home or be in shape.
Anyway we don't have the right to complain because it's the same that most of us do,getting sex while giving nothing in return later in a relationship.
I'm talking about the fvck and dump crew obviously.
We are still expected to put the money while she doesn't have anymore to stay at home or be in shape.
Anyway we don't have the right to complain because it's the same that most of us do,getting sex while giving nothing in return later in a relationship.
I'm talking about the fvck and dump crew obviously.
LeftyLoosey
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Oh yah. it does...but it only matters when it comes to long term dating. I have had women who have expressly said they would never date a guy who makes less than X, still sleep with me when they knew I made less than X. It's just like with women, some you will sleep with some you marry, for a woman the ones you marry better have resources.
TheAsianLoverReturns
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This must be a popular article. Got me so worked up I made a video...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDO6rRSFCBA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDO6rRSFCBA
Jeffst1980
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I agree that it only matters for long term relationships.
Not being fiscally sound can be a dealbreaker in the long run. But...so can not wanting to get married.
I wouldn't worry excessively about money, because there will ALWAYS be someone richer than you. I'd worry about developing a compelling personality that women respond to, because that's what's going to get you through rough patches. You should, however, be able to support yourself comfortably.
Not being fiscally sound can be a dealbreaker in the long run. But...so can not wanting to get married.
I wouldn't worry excessively about money, because there will ALWAYS be someone richer than you. I'd worry about developing a compelling personality that women respond to, because that's what's going to get you through rough patches. You should, however, be able to support yourself comfortably.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Andy_Dufresne
Senior Don Juan
To answer the question, try this experiment, subjectively.
1. Go to Wal Mart and check out the women
2. Go to a high end mall in your city (i.e. where there is a Coach store, a Neiman Marcus) and check out the women.
3. Do a compare and judge for yourself.
1. Go to Wal Mart and check out the women
2. Go to a high end mall in your city (i.e. where there is a Coach store, a Neiman Marcus) and check out the women.
3. Do a compare and judge for yourself.
Zonder
Don Juan
As long as you make more than she does you'll be fine. Women subconsciously pay attention to that, whether they want to or not, so it gradually becomes an issue in LTR's.
cavedweller
Don Juan
I have a saying:
Older women are only interested in M&M's..
ie:
Marriage and money..
Older women are only interested in M&M's..
ie:
Marriage and money..
squirrels
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How does money work? It's exchanged for goods and services. Meaning that you provide something of value to someone else, then they provide you with currency as compensation.
If you're not making that much money, how much VALUE are you really providing to the world?
If you're not making that much money, how much VALUE are you really providing to the world?