"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Doctors have me paranoid as ****.

ElStud

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Okay so listen man, when I was young apparently my doctors said I had Aspbergers Syndrome or something. And yeah, when I was in especially 5th, 6th and 7th grade people would often tease me because :I had a kind of slow voice. Was this because of the Aspbergers Syndrome? Who knows. When I was younger I also thought visually than I think now, which is with words.

Thing that doesn't make sense to me, is that even in those grades I had friends and was social. Sure I wasn't the coolest kid, far from it, but I had friends who I hung out with. And if I remember correctly, a person with Aspberger's isn't suppose to be social. And 7th Grade's where I started changing even more, becoming even MORE social and starting to care more about my social status. In 7th Grade, I acheived what you might call popularity in my class. You definitely don't see that happening to people with Aspberger's.

Next year I moved, blah blah, 8th Grade, moved to my current school district, where I really wasn't social that year blah blah. And then in 9th Grade, I people calling me a retard AGAIN because I had a slow voice and I let this affect me, got mad and got in fights with them. But eventually I started realizing that it was only a small group of idiots who thought that. 10th Grade was normal, got in one fight though. 11th Grade, I didn't get in any fights and later this year I started doing approaching more. 12th Grade, I did a lot of approaching and was VERY social, which goes against doctors saying I had Aspberger's. And even when people did call me a retard later on, I just ignored it or laughed it off.

So in the end, should I really worry about it? Like is there a possibility that the Doctors were actually wrong? I'd like to know that. I mean there's a lot of evidence out there that I DON'T have it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Aspergers doesnt mean you are asocial, it means that you act slightly weird around others when being social.

Basically, it means your cant read social cues well, you may even come across as a bit of an azzhole to people, do you get called a jerk or weirdo a lot?

Think Larry David from curb your enthusiasm.


Alot of people grow out if it though.
 

ElStud

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Rho said:
Aspergers doesnt mean you are asocial, it means that you act slightly weird around others when being social.

Basically, it means your cant read social cues well, you may even come across as a bit of an azzhole to people, do you get called a jerk or weirdo a lot?

Think Larry David from curb your enthusiasm.


Alot of people grow out if it though.
lol this is even more proof though. Like if someone wants me to f*ck off or someone is p*ssed off at me, I know this. Whether I care or not isn't the case, but I can definitely tell that kind of stuff. Trust me, if someone thinks I'm acting like a retard I know and I can tell. But lol if I'm just being me and having fun I don't care. But yes, the fact is is that I can tell.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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betterthandead

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People that are autistic or slightly autistic are weak at picking up body/vocal signs from other people and are unable to answer back. I'm also slightly autistic however, saying this I do recognize some signs or when I don't do anything when someone behaves in a certain way. It's important that you respond back appropriate as possible because people might start thinking that you can be some scratching post for them.
 

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Not to offend anyone who has asperger but I don't think it's a real disease. First of all no way to really prove if you have it from a doctor. You can't really test it secondly I think anyone can be cured of it. Don't let what a doctor say bother you. Just because I doctor said it doesn't mean you have to let it control your life. You can get out of it I've seen it before. I've known guys with it who were able to get out of it and become very social. Hell I could of probably been diagnosed with it early in life but now I'm pretty social. Just improve yourself everyday. Get out there and start meeting new ppl.
 

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Aspergers iisn't a serious disease once you gain control. Doctors are often times wrong ur fine man.
 
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