"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Doctors have me paranoid as ****.

ElStud

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Okay so listen man, when I was young apparently my doctors said I had Aspbergers Syndrome or something. And yeah, when I was in especially 5th, 6th and 7th grade people would often tease me because :I had a kind of slow voice. Was this because of the Aspbergers Syndrome? Who knows. When I was younger I also thought visually than I think now, which is with words.

Thing that doesn't make sense to me, is that even in those grades I had friends and was social. Sure I wasn't the coolest kid, far from it, but I had friends who I hung out with. And if I remember correctly, a person with Aspberger's isn't suppose to be social. And 7th Grade's where I started changing even more, becoming even MORE social and starting to care more about my social status. In 7th Grade, I acheived what you might call popularity in my class. You definitely don't see that happening to people with Aspberger's.

Next year I moved, blah blah, 8th Grade, moved to my current school district, where I really wasn't social that year blah blah. And then in 9th Grade, I people calling me a retard AGAIN because I had a slow voice and I let this affect me, got mad and got in fights with them. But eventually I started realizing that it was only a small group of idiots who thought that. 10th Grade was normal, got in one fight though. 11th Grade, I didn't get in any fights and later this year I started doing approaching more. 12th Grade, I did a lot of approaching and was VERY social, which goes against doctors saying I had Aspberger's. And even when people did call me a retard later on, I just ignored it or laughed it off.

So in the end, should I really worry about it? Like is there a possibility that the Doctors were actually wrong? I'd like to know that. I mean there's a lot of evidence out there that I DON'T have it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Aspergers doesnt mean you are asocial, it means that you act slightly weird around others when being social.

Basically, it means your cant read social cues well, you may even come across as a bit of an azzhole to people, do you get called a jerk or weirdo a lot?

Think Larry David from curb your enthusiasm.


Alot of people grow out if it though.
 

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Rho said:
Aspergers doesnt mean you are asocial, it means that you act slightly weird around others when being social.

Basically, it means your cant read social cues well, you may even come across as a bit of an azzhole to people, do you get called a jerk or weirdo a lot?

Think Larry David from curb your enthusiasm.


Alot of people grow out if it though.
lol this is even more proof though. Like if someone wants me to f*ck off or someone is p*ssed off at me, I know this. Whether I care or not isn't the case, but I can definitely tell that kind of stuff. Trust me, if someone thinks I'm acting like a retard I know and I can tell. But lol if I'm just being me and having fun I don't care. But yes, the fact is is that I can tell.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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betterthandead

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People that are autistic or slightly autistic are weak at picking up body/vocal signs from other people and are unable to answer back. I'm also slightly autistic however, saying this I do recognize some signs or when I don't do anything when someone behaves in a certain way. It's important that you respond back appropriate as possible because people might start thinking that you can be some scratching post for them.
 

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Not to offend anyone who has asperger but I don't think it's a real disease. First of all no way to really prove if you have it from a doctor. You can't really test it secondly I think anyone can be cured of it. Don't let what a doctor say bother you. Just because I doctor said it doesn't mean you have to let it control your life. You can get out of it I've seen it before. I've known guys with it who were able to get out of it and become very social. Hell I could of probably been diagnosed with it early in life but now I'm pretty social. Just improve yourself everyday. Get out there and start meeting new ppl.
 

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Aspergers iisn't a serious disease once you gain control. Doctors are often times wrong ur fine man.
 
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