"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Docs - The most inspirational post ever.

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I read inspiration posts daily, and they are alright, but they tell the same story. Be the man, Just do it, etc. This will change those posts forever.


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The only inspiration you should need is seeing yourself with your goals.

Just think for a minute, beside the girl of your dreams, or having your house and car, or amassing a lot of investments, or even seeing yourself getting a phone number, making an impression on the boss, or even trying your best at what you do every single day.

If you can't see yourself up there, and won't bother to at least try, then you are of absolute failure to yourself, to the world, and a failure to the dreams you won't even start.

Are you going to try and possibly fall, or not even bother at all and always fall?

:woo:
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There's not really a lot left to say on motivation. People's inner voices need to stop being such whiny little bi'tches, shut up, and let themselves just do it.

The way you think is a tool, it's not "truth". If a thought isn't useful, change it. It'll resist at first, but keep in mind the difference between how you are and how you want to be and your unconscious mind will bring you up to speed soon enough. Persistance is the key. Motivational posts often take a logical approach, which is useful for showing you that you have a problem perhaps, but it doesn't change the root belief because beliefs don't work logically. You have to put a little more work on it. NLP is awesome for that.

For a whiny little bi'tches, the best phrase to remember and use is "fu'ck it". Life isn't so damn serious anyway! (Think this when it helps you. When it doesn't help you, don't think it. That's the great thing about the mind... you can think ANYTHING. Even opposing things).

"There's no such thing as failure". I have an affirmation: "whatever I do, I accept myself fully and completely". I think that whenever I feel shame about something I've done or am worried how I'll look when I do something. You might think that the threat of not accepting yourself is useful for motivation, but I find that all it does is make you scared of failure. You need to be happy about who you are now to improve. (Well anyway it'll make you happier :D)

Krassus had some awesome posts on motivation. In the end, it all comes down to fear.

Fear sucks. It really, really sucks. Conquering it is one of the most important things you can do in life.

Krassus on Fear
 
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