You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Excellent, and how to pick up 20y/o babes I hope.Originally posted by Matt Rogers
I think Doc love's system is good-although it is slightly more focused towards the older man.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That was very well put. The System isn't a pick up guide, it's just a book of insights into how women behave and how to equalize the playing field while saving you a lot of heartache.Originally posted by MisterAl
The System is gold when you use it properly. Francisco is right on. It's really for qualifying chicks and keeping the good ones and weeding out the bad ones fast. You still have to find the girls.
Whether dating or in an LTR, when I fuk up it's because I got lazy and deviated from Doc's advice. On the other hand, it's working perfectly when the crazies and b!tches disappear without making me wasting another dime or minute on them.
My guess is that you would consider The System a complete waste of your money. It's not a pick-up guide or for getting quick snatch.
So out of curiosity, what are the three qualities that should be used to qualify a woman?Originally posted by MrBond_Age
Its a complete waste of your money when you actually pay for it. Remember what I said:" Ive seen the material but didnt pay for it".
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
-NopeOriginally posted by MrBond_Age
mmmm.
Putting the BS aside Id say:
-Her apearance
-Her behaviors
-Her group of friends and family.
So you wanted to lecture you on what I read and not my opinion?Well wathever.If you actually bought what could loosly be called dating material (read: dating BS) then I pity you.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
-Nope
-Kinda, but not specific enough...
- and NOPE....
C'mon, supposedly had seen this information online....
FYI guys, Doc Love does not post any specifics about The System in any of his articles. This is probably why most of you have no clue what is actually contained in The System, he only briefly alludes to the concepts.
Now I'm not sure I should post the three KEY things that you should use when qualifying. Maybe you guys should just drop a C-note....![]()
Oh, look who's backtracking. So if it was just your opinion, why did you say that YOU HAVE READ what is in The System online? I called you out because I didn't think that you have read any of it but I was going to give you the benifit of the doubt. I guess I was right.Originally posted by MrBond_Age
So you wanted to lecture you on what I read and not my opinion?Well wathever.If you actually bought what could loosly be called dating material (read: dating BS) then I pity you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.