She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I like Louis and Copeland's book. It's easy to understand and it's systematic. I honestly feel sorry for Doc Love because I'm sure that he has plethora of knowledge with DJing but just unable to systematically write it. He should have hired somebody to edit his Dating Dictionary for structure and spelling.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't recall Doc writing to never leave a message for the first 60 days of the relationship. Where did you find it in his book? I'll have to re-read it. I never leave drawn out messages but I do say what I would like to do with them and tell them to give me a call the next day to let me know if they'd like to come. Women with high ILs call back by then or even sooner.
Well yes and no, I do agree - it is outdated. But I also thought I could share some of my experiences, maybe to help someone else.
hahahahah....Funny sh*t man. Too bad no one else got it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.