Ringleader41
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Like you try to give them input and they think you're crazy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes lol, i tell my friends that girls make it easier for guys that theyre attracted to you and they go off to defend themselves because its obviously not happening to them.Uncharted said:Yes I told a friend of mine not to text a girl that blew him off and he thought I was nuts. He texted her 5 more times and she never responded.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You spin plates, and he spins moms, apparently.FinalWay said:One time a friend asked a question about spinning plates and I explained...he thought it was stupid. I just laughed at his ignorance. He's the one with 3 kids, all different moms and paying child support.
This is the most pathetic and overused beta line in the universe. Its like love gives them an excuse to engage in all sorts of ridiculous, supplicating, groveling behavior and put up with all sorts of disrespect. Anyways, to get on topic I wouldn't bother telling any friends about this. One does not simply drop something like this on a person. Maybe drip feed it to them for a bit to see if they have an open mind.Uncharted said:Response: but i love her
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.