"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you think you think too far aheaD?

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Do you ever see yourself thinking too far ahead into something? Lets take women for example.

For ex: you meet a girl one night at a party. you get it on with her on the dance floor, get her number.

Do you think to yourself:
1. wow, she is great. i cant wait to see her again.
2. heh, that was cool. let me try to get another girl.
3. damn...i think she is LTR material.

i often find myself in between 1 and 3.

i dont know why i see myself thinking so far ahead when things havent even progressed that far yet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah fvck, I used to do that. The thing is I was looking for a LTR, so I was always trying to picture me and this woman in a LTR. It was all part of my "qualifying" process.

When I was an AFC, I would do this with a girl who was just being friendly to me. I wouldn't have the ba11s to get her number, but I could picture me on a date or in a relationship with her.

Funny how your mindset changes.
 
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Originally posted by Bungo Pony

Funny how your mindset changes.
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even when i do this, i keep telling myself its the AFC inside wanting to come back out. but knowing that if i let the AFC out, it would mean an end to all that i have learned over the last 9-12 months.
 
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huh.. the first thing i think is ...

if her hair are good enuff(long, silky) for my fetish :D,

me touches her hair *ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*
****smackKKKKKKKKKKK****
sh!t...
Run the fu(k outta there ;)
WhoAmI
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm young and immature so unfortunately i'm always thinking option #2. I figure the more numbers I pull, the more dates I go on, the better the chances of me meeting the right girl for me on however many dates.

I call it optimization of chances, others call it doggish. To each his own, I do my thing you do yours. Remember though for each failed endevor with what ever potential LTR, the clock ticks for us all.
 
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I definitely think too far ahead.

It's a problem for me in that I usually see myself being inadequate for her as a "boyfriend". I.e. I'll be at a bar or something, meet a cute girl... get some rapport going and then short-circuit myself when I realize that we could fool around but at some point my inner-wimpiness would show through.

Weak inner-game, yuck.
 
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