"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do you think you think too far aheaD?

killerasp

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Do you ever see yourself thinking too far ahead into something? Lets take women for example.

For ex: you meet a girl one night at a party. you get it on with her on the dance floor, get her number.

Do you think to yourself:
1. wow, she is great. i cant wait to see her again.
2. heh, that was cool. let me try to get another girl.
3. damn...i think she is LTR material.

i often find myself in between 1 and 3.

i dont know why i see myself thinking so far ahead when things havent even progressed that far yet.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bungo Pony

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Yeah fvck, I used to do that. The thing is I was looking for a LTR, so I was always trying to picture me and this woman in a LTR. It was all part of my "qualifying" process.

When I was an AFC, I would do this with a girl who was just being friendly to me. I wouldn't have the ba11s to get her number, but I could picture me on a date or in a relationship with her.

Funny how your mindset changes.
 

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Originally posted by Bungo Pony

Funny how your mindset changes.
even when i do this, i keep telling myself its the AFC inside wanting to come back out. but knowing that if i let the AFC out, it would mean an end to all that i have learned over the last 9-12 months.
 

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huh.. the first thing i think is ...

if her hair are good enuff(long, silky) for my fetish :D,

me touches her hair *ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*
****smackKKKKKKKKKKK****
sh!t...
Run the fu(k outta there ;)
WhoAmI
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PRMoon

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I'm young and immature so unfortunately i'm always thinking option #2. I figure the more numbers I pull, the more dates I go on, the better the chances of me meeting the right girl for me on however many dates.

I call it optimization of chances, others call it doggish. To each his own, I do my thing you do yours. Remember though for each failed endevor with what ever potential LTR, the clock ticks for us all.
 

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I definitely think too far ahead.

It's a problem for me in that I usually see myself being inadequate for her as a "boyfriend". I.e. I'll be at a bar or something, meet a cute girl... get some rapport going and then short-circuit myself when I realize that we could fool around but at some point my inner-wimpiness would show through.

Weak inner-game, yuck.
 
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