"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do you think when wifey says husband doesn't abuse, isn't addictive, and they get along, but wants a divorce, she's really being hypergamous?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
I need your advice on what kids really need, and what I need to do for my daughter. I’m the mom and primary parent of a fantastic 6½-year old. I adore her. Her dad, not so much. The marriage isn’t intolerable—there’s no abuse, no addiction, little conflict that spills over into our parenting. But we have truly substantial problems. (The specifics don’t matter, but trust me, I’ve spent years trying my hardest to work on our issues without success, including trying to get us all into therapy many times.) I don’t love him and I want to leave.
my opinion: So long as the problem isn't him having a reduced libido or erectile dysfunction, I can't fathom this as being any more than she had felt that she had to settle for a man of her husband's low genetic stock, and now she wants to upgrade. :down:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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After kids and years of marriage, men turn more beta over time. The woman looses attraction. Never stop gaming, guys.
You could plan your time in the environment. IE: too busy except 1hr a day.
 

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Cause by Lacks foundation in the beginning of the relationship, most guys and girls nowdays date to avoid being alone with themselves, not from a mutual feeling, respect and admiration. When this progress to marriage, the problem emerges, theres no feelings towards each other and they couldn't stand facing each other anymore, ask yourself, if from beginning you cant stand being alone, truly enjoy with the company of yourself, who else would??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

my opinion: So long as the problem isn't him having a reduced libido or erectile dysfunction, I can't fathom this as being any more than she had felt that she had to settle for a man of her husband's low genetic stock, and now she wants to upgrade. :down:
actually the answers for that question was pretty ok, stating the only reason she want to jump ou is the fact he belives she will find a ever happy marriage, with don't exist

but if you mean she is looking for a greener grass over the fence then yes, she is
 
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