"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think when wifey says husband doesn't abuse, isn't addictive, and they get along, but wants a divorce, she's really being hypergamous?

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
I need your advice on what kids really need, and what I need to do for my daughter. I’m the mom and primary parent of a fantastic 6½-year old. I adore her. Her dad, not so much. The marriage isn’t intolerable—there’s no abuse, no addiction, little conflict that spills over into our parenting. But we have truly substantial problems. (The specifics don’t matter, but trust me, I’ve spent years trying my hardest to work on our issues without success, including trying to get us all into therapy many times.) I don’t love him and I want to leave.
my opinion: So long as the problem isn't him having a reduced libido or erectile dysfunction, I can't fathom this as being any more than she had felt that she had to settle for a man of her husband's low genetic stock, and now she wants to upgrade. :down:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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After kids and years of marriage, men turn more beta over time. The woman looses attraction. Never stop gaming, guys.
You could plan your time in the environment. IE: too busy except 1hr a day.
 

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Cause by Lacks foundation in the beginning of the relationship, most guys and girls nowdays date to avoid being alone with themselves, not from a mutual feeling, respect and admiration. When this progress to marriage, the problem emerges, theres no feelings towards each other and they couldn't stand facing each other anymore, ask yourself, if from beginning you cant stand being alone, truly enjoy with the company of yourself, who else would??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

my opinion: So long as the problem isn't him having a reduced libido or erectile dysfunction, I can't fathom this as being any more than she had felt that she had to settle for a man of her husband's low genetic stock, and now she wants to upgrade. :down:
actually the answers for that question was pretty ok, stating the only reason she want to jump ou is the fact he belives she will find a ever happy marriage, with don't exist

but if you mean she is looking for a greener grass over the fence then yes, she is
 
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