Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male onesI was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.
It is intended to substitute or supplement interactions with women. It works for me. I have a large long pillow that I can cuddle up with while playing the videos. Feeling like you are hugging while playing this in your bed is amazing. Playing while taking a dump or in the shower is hot too. Would you really share these intimate spaces with a guy? You want to cuddle and fvck women, even if its mental.Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones
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Deep male voices are the best for falling asleep to
Mothers still bear responsibility for most of the world's childcare, but when it comes to bedtime stories they are simply not as well equipped as fathers.www.theguardian.com
You've clearly experienced a traumatic brain injury that's left you stuck at age 10I have a large long pillow that I can cuddle up with while playing the videos
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
All human beings have Mommy/Daddy issues to a degree. At a certain point, there's not much more one can say about such mattersAs a possibly interesting side-note: why is it we talk about women with Daddy issues, but never about men with Mommy issues?
I am not going to post anything that is going to be divisive or cause argument, but if something is a common sense statement (ie visiting prostitutes is not going to be condoned by most religions out there), then I think its rather arbitrary to go after a post that portrays that visiting prostitutes is immoral by a religious standard because there is nothing controversial or discussion worthy about that. Don't you think? Also you have also been very vocal about your own position against visiting prostitutes as well. So yeah, I'm not an escortceller like the OP because of religious reasons. Whatever.Dude, can you not stop talking about religion? You've been warned repeatedly privately; now I'm doing it publicly: CEASE AND DESIST. Continued violations of the forum rules will result in sanctions.
https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/forum-rules.269375/ :
- Political and religious discussions are not allowed on this forum. Experience has shown that they create too many problems among members.
That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
Okay, off to another angle of discussion. I was really loved-starved earlier in the year (ie around March) and a video like the one above was really penetrating. I play it again now, and I'm not getting anything out of a video like that. It's likely because I've had allot of exposure (ie with interaction with the opposite sex from the office I'm working at) that it's losing the penetration of feeling that it's real.
I'm worried that ASMR videos might also feel "less real" and lose their effect. You have to be in a reallly serious extreme state of lonliness for these videos to have a punch. I just don't feel that way today. I don't feel love-starved enough for the music videos or ASMR videos to keep having a punch. Maybe the novelty has worn out in having a female friend co-worker in the office. I'm shocked a scenario could happen with me considering where I was at earlier in the year.
Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?You want to cuddle and fvck women,
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I disagree. Like I said, escortcelling is against my religion and I'm not open to any pay for play, including professional cuddlers at this time.Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?
You've been here since 2009 and everything you post is either cringe or borderline trolling. If you're so dam spiritual, get out from behind the computer and go to some church functions, you just might meet someone.
You know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
In other words, you're hopeless.I don't have a good experience with any place. I'm worst off than when I'm younger when I didn't have good results then, in a better day and age than now, does not make sense to me.
I'm partial to Sweet's rendition of In The Air TonightYou know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!
One can argue that these music videos may have been popular BEFORE mass ASMR videos flooded youtube.
For one these are old music videos (Kelly Sweet is more newer compared to the others, but still before lots of ASMRs were uploaded), and this may have been what people would have been into before ASMRs came out.
Hapless might be a better term, lol! But then again, how would I take care of my elderly mom like that if I were involved with someone?In other words, you're hopeless.
I agree.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.