"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.

 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Another poster who is trying to take over my style of threads. Of course it's soothing! There are so many ASMR videos out there.

Some of the wordings and delivery are very deep depending on the video you are looking at.

Most people don't understand this because they have sufficient interactions with women. I won't watch these videos unless there is no interaction with any woman in a meaningful way for 2 days or if I'm "triggered" by something (ie maybe seeing a lady being too sexual/friendly with another guy and feeling bad, etc...). Otherwise, I see it as cough candy. It's sweet, but should only be used if you need it, not because its sweet.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.

Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones




 

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As a possibly interesting side-note: why is it we talk about women with Daddy issues, but never about men with Mommy issues?
 

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Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones




It is intended to substitute or supplement interactions with women. It works for me. I have a large long pillow that I can cuddle up with while playing the videos. Feeling like you are hugging while playing this in your bed is amazing. Playing while taking a dump or in the shower is hot too. Would you really share these intimate spaces with a guy? You want to cuddle and fvck women, even if its mental.

I thought the OP had his needs met with real women though as an escortceller. As a Christian my options for dealing with needs are more restricted. God can do a crackdown and make me feel disgusted to the point of puking or get my mother on my case. I can see why I might need to do that, but not the OP.
 
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Dude, can you not stop talking about religion? You've been warned repeatedly privately; now I'm doing it publicly: CEASE AND DESIST. Continued violations of the forum rules will result in sanctions.

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/forum-rules.269375/ :

  • Political and religious discussions are not allowed on this forum. Experience has shown that they create too many problems among members.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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As a possibly interesting side-note: why is it we talk about women with Daddy issues, but never about men with Mommy issues?
All human beings have Mommy/Daddy issues to a degree. At a certain point, there's not much more one can say about such matters
 

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Dude, can you not stop talking about religion? You've been warned repeatedly privately; now I'm doing it publicly: CEASE AND DESIST. Continued violations of the forum rules will result in sanctions.

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/forum-rules.269375/ :

  • Political and religious discussions are not allowed on this forum. Experience has shown that they create too many problems among members.
I am not going to post anything that is going to be divisive or cause argument, but if something is a common sense statement (ie visiting prostitutes is not going to be condoned by most religions out there), then I think its rather arbitrary to go after a post that portrays that visiting prostitutes is immoral by a religious standard because there is nothing controversial or discussion worthy about that. Don't you think? Also you have also been very vocal about your own position against visiting prostitutes as well. So yeah, I'm not an escortceller like the OP because of religious reasons. Whatever.
 
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Okay, off to another angle of discussion. I was really loved-starved earlier in the year (ie around March) and a video like the one above was really penetrating. I play it again now, and I'm not getting anything out of a video like that. It's likely because I've had allot of exposure (ie with interaction with the opposite sex from the office I'm working at) that it's losing the penetration of feeling that it's real.

I'm worried that ASMR videos might also feel "less real" and lose their effect. You have to be in a reallly serious extreme state of lonliness for these videos to have a punch. I just don't feel that way today. I don't feel love-starved enough for the music videos or ASMR videos to keep having a punch. Maybe the novelty has worn out in having a female friend co-worker in the office. I'm shocked a scenario could happen with me considering where I was at earlier in the year.
 

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Okay, off to another angle of discussion. I was really loved-starved earlier in the year (ie around March) and a video like the one above was really penetrating. I play it again now, and I'm not getting anything out of a video like that. It's likely because I've had allot of exposure (ie with interaction with the opposite sex from the office I'm working at) that it's losing the penetration of feeling that it's real.

I'm worried that ASMR videos might also feel "less real" and lose their effect. You have to be in a reallly serious extreme state of lonliness for these videos to have a punch. I just don't feel that way today. I don't feel love-starved enough for the music videos or ASMR videos to keep having a punch. Maybe the novelty has worn out in having a female friend co-worker in the office. I'm shocked a scenario could happen with me considering where I was at earlier in the year.
That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
 

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You want to cuddle and fvck women,
Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?

You've been here since 2009 and everything you post is either cringe or borderline trolling. If you're so dam spiritual, get out from behind the computer and go to some church functions, you just might meet someone.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?

You've been here since 2009 and everything you post is either cringe or borderline trolling. If you're so dam spiritual, get out from behind the computer and go to some church functions, you just might meet someone.
I disagree. Like I said, escortcelling is against my religion and I'm not open to any pay for play, including professional cuddlers at this time.

Anyway, I didn't make this thread. However, I may be the only poster taking this thread seriously. I think what I was driving at by that comment, is that ASMR is a type of softcore-porn that aims more in soft, kind and seductive words and voice of a hot woman that you would want to cuddle up with. It's a different vibe altogether than other types of porn. You tend to want to cuddle and then get aroused.

As for your other suggestions, I went to church services (ie after a church service people tend to walk out rather than socialize unless they know you). In fact, I have been to Youth/Young Adult groups when I was younger (ie talking about late teens and 20s) and I didn't have any traction then, so why would I think about doing that now when I'm 48 years old? I don't have a good experience with any place. You making a suggestion like that now, when I'm worst off than when I'm younger when I didn't have good results then, in a better day and age than now, does not make sense to me.
 
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That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
You know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!




One can argue that these music videos may have been popular BEFORE mass ASMR videos flooded youtube.

For one these are old music videos (Kelly Sweet is more newer compared to the others, but still before lots of ASMRs were uploaded), and this may have been what people would have been into before ASMRs came out.
 

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You know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!




One can argue that these music videos may have been popular BEFORE mass ASMR videos flooded youtube.

For one these are old music videos (Kelly Sweet is more newer compared to the others, but still before lots of ASMRs were uploaded), and this may have been what people would have been into before ASMRs came out.
I'm partial to Sweet's rendition of In The Air Tonight

 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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