"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you think that ASMR is a form of p0rn?

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I was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.

 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Another poster who is trying to take over my style of threads. Of course it's soothing! There are so many ASMR videos out there.

Some of the wordings and delivery are very deep depending on the video you are looking at.

Most people don't understand this because they have sufficient interactions with women. I won't watch these videos unless there is no interaction with any woman in a meaningful way for 2 days or if I'm "triggered" by something (ie maybe seeing a lady being too sexual/friendly with another guy and feeling bad, etc...). Otherwise, I see it as cough candy. It's sweet, but should only be used if you need it, not because its sweet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.

Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones




 

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As a possibly interesting side-note: why is it we talk about women with Daddy issues, but never about men with Mommy issues?
 

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Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones




It is intended to substitute or supplement interactions with women. It works for me. I have a large long pillow that I can cuddle up with while playing the videos. Feeling like you are hugging while playing this in your bed is amazing. Playing while taking a dump or in the shower is hot too. Would you really share these intimate spaces with a guy? You want to cuddle and fvck women, even if its mental.

I thought the OP had his needs met with real women though as an escortceller. As a Christian my options for dealing with needs are more restricted. God can do a crackdown and make me feel disgusted to the point of puking or get my mother on my case. I can see why I might need to do that, but not the OP.
 
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Dude, can you not stop talking about religion? You've been warned repeatedly privately; now I'm doing it publicly: CEASE AND DESIST. Continued violations of the forum rules will result in sanctions.

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/forum-rules.269375/ :

  • Political and religious discussions are not allowed on this forum. Experience has shown that they create too many problems among members.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As a possibly interesting side-note: why is it we talk about women with Daddy issues, but never about men with Mommy issues?
All human beings have Mommy/Daddy issues to a degree. At a certain point, there's not much more one can say about such matters
 

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Dude, can you not stop talking about religion? You've been warned repeatedly privately; now I'm doing it publicly: CEASE AND DESIST. Continued violations of the forum rules will result in sanctions.

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/forum-rules.269375/ :

  • Political and religious discussions are not allowed on this forum. Experience has shown that they create too many problems among members.
I am not going to post anything that is going to be divisive or cause argument, but if something is a common sense statement (ie visiting prostitutes is not going to be condoned by most religions out there), then I think its rather arbitrary to go after a post that portrays that visiting prostitutes is immoral by a religious standard because there is nothing controversial or discussion worthy about that. Don't you think? Also you have also been very vocal about your own position against visiting prostitutes as well. So yeah, I'm not an escortceller like the OP because of religious reasons. Whatever.
 
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Okay, off to another angle of discussion. I was really loved-starved earlier in the year (ie around March) and a video like the one above was really penetrating. I play it again now, and I'm not getting anything out of a video like that. It's likely because I've had allot of exposure (ie with interaction with the opposite sex from the office I'm working at) that it's losing the penetration of feeling that it's real.

I'm worried that ASMR videos might also feel "less real" and lose their effect. You have to be in a reallly serious extreme state of lonliness for these videos to have a punch. I just don't feel that way today. I don't feel love-starved enough for the music videos or ASMR videos to keep having a punch. Maybe the novelty has worn out in having a female friend co-worker in the office. I'm shocked a scenario could happen with me considering where I was at earlier in the year.
 

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Okay, off to another angle of discussion. I was really loved-starved earlier in the year (ie around March) and a video like the one above was really penetrating. I play it again now, and I'm not getting anything out of a video like that. It's likely because I've had allot of exposure (ie with interaction with the opposite sex from the office I'm working at) that it's losing the penetration of feeling that it's real.

I'm worried that ASMR videos might also feel "less real" and lose their effect. You have to be in a reallly serious extreme state of lonliness for these videos to have a punch. I just don't feel that way today. I don't feel love-starved enough for the music videos or ASMR videos to keep having a punch. Maybe the novelty has worn out in having a female friend co-worker in the office. I'm shocked a scenario could happen with me considering where I was at earlier in the year.
That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
 

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You want to cuddle and fvck women,
Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?

You've been here since 2009 and everything you post is either cringe or borderline trolling. If you're so dam spiritual, get out from behind the computer and go to some church functions, you just might meet someone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Then why don't you go out and try to do that instead of wallowing in such patheticism?

You've been here since 2009 and everything you post is either cringe or borderline trolling. If you're so dam spiritual, get out from behind the computer and go to some church functions, you just might meet someone.
I disagree. Like I said, escortcelling is against my religion and I'm not open to any pay for play, including professional cuddlers at this time.

Anyway, I didn't make this thread. However, I may be the only poster taking this thread seriously. I think what I was driving at by that comment, is that ASMR is a type of softcore-porn that aims more in soft, kind and seductive words and voice of a hot woman that you would want to cuddle up with. It's a different vibe altogether than other types of porn. You tend to want to cuddle and then get aroused.

As for your other suggestions, I went to church services (ie after a church service people tend to walk out rather than socialize unless they know you). In fact, I have been to Youth/Young Adult groups when I was younger (ie talking about late teens and 20s) and I didn't have any traction then, so why would I think about doing that now when I'm 48 years old? I don't have a good experience with any place. You making a suggestion like that now, when I'm worst off than when I'm younger when I didn't have good results then, in a better day and age than now, does not make sense to me.
 
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That broad's voice is many things... But soothing and pleasant ain't among them
You know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!




One can argue that these music videos may have been popular BEFORE mass ASMR videos flooded youtube.

For one these are old music videos (Kelly Sweet is more newer compared to the others, but still before lots of ASMRs were uploaded), and this may have been what people would have been into before ASMRs came out.
 

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You know who you are talking to dude? I can pull up other videos that are going to be soothing and pleasant, lol!




One can argue that these music videos may have been popular BEFORE mass ASMR videos flooded youtube.

For one these are old music videos (Kelly Sweet is more newer compared to the others, but still before lots of ASMRs were uploaded), and this may have been what people would have been into before ASMRs came out.
I'm partial to Sweet's rendition of In The Air Tonight

 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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