You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
But that's the problem. If he thinks "dirtbag" after reading that, then a lot of women are going to think the same. Therefore he stands to blow his chance with lots of women all because of wording.( . )( . ) said:So he's a " dirtbag " for DARING to have HIS own standards and a lack of descriptive words to give it a P.C sugar coating for you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Search the forum for a post by Rollo T. talking about a personal ad.Call_Me_Daddy said:Where?
Like all low status males you worry too much about what a b!tch thinks of you. Also men and women think differently.The Truth said:But that's the problem. If he thinks "dirtbag" after reading that, then a lot of women are going to think the same. Therefore he stands to blow his chance with lots of women all because of wording.
That "P.C sugar coating" has its merits.
You mean the one where he read a chick's ad and redid it based on his preferences?Francisco d'Anconia said:Search the forum for a post by Rollo T. talking about a personal ad.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You guys don't get it. Most women have a concern with their weight in some way or another, no matter their size. Although he'll offend the fatties, he's going to look like an @ss to the other women. They're going to wonder what he'd say about them if they gained an extra 5 pounds.Ol'BlueEyes said:I don't see why not. I've seen the typical girl-on-MySpace pages, and offending a few fat girls is the least of your concerns.
Exactly.Although he'll offend the fatties, he's going to look like an @ss to the other women