MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Are you really 70? If so you must be the oldest "PUA" guy in the world. On a side note, do you think life becomes easier with age?Scaramouche said:Dear MDJ,
"When we're older"...well speak for yourself mate!...I can vouch for every word in that article...As you get Older it just gets better and better...but you must stay Healthy...Eat and Exercise wisely and your bed will never be cold...Promise!
Indeed!! I hope he dies that way but not for a very long time. I can see him working for another 20 years if his health stays good. The guy is truly an inspiration for all of us.Scaramouche said:Dear Lefty,
"I picture him dieing in 25 years of a heart attack laying in bed getting it on with her."....Maybe so Lefty,but he died with a smile on his face!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scara's right when he says it's a mixed bag. Some things get easier and some things get harder. Like he says, if you're smart you should be able to set yourself up financially. I can't imagine having to or wanting to be working when I'm 76. Different strokes for different folks though. There should be plenty of options dating wise. You get better at coping. You take more things in stride.mangotot said:On a side note, do you think life becomes easier with age?
"Liniment"?logicallefty said:..he said the "L" word to her and I was thinking "oh cr@p, grampa, NO NO don't do that. We need to talk!". But I asked him if she said it back and he said "yes".
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.