MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Are you really 70? If so you must be the oldest "PUA" guy in the world. On a side note, do you think life becomes easier with age?Scaramouche said:Dear MDJ,
"When we're older"...well speak for yourself mate!...I can vouch for every word in that article...As you get Older it just gets better and better...but you must stay Healthy...Eat and Exercise wisely and your bed will never be cold...Promise!
Indeed!! I hope he dies that way but not for a very long time. I can see him working for another 20 years if his health stays good. The guy is truly an inspiration for all of us.Scaramouche said:Dear Lefty,
"I picture him dieing in 25 years of a heart attack laying in bed getting it on with her."....Maybe so Lefty,but he died with a smile on his face!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Scara's right when he says it's a mixed bag. Some things get easier and some things get harder. Like he says, if you're smart you should be able to set yourself up financially. I can't imagine having to or wanting to be working when I'm 76. Different strokes for different folks though. There should be plenty of options dating wise. You get better at coping. You take more things in stride.mangotot said:On a side note, do you think life becomes easier with age?
"Liniment"?logicallefty said:..he said the "L" word to her and I was thinking "oh cr@p, grampa, NO NO don't do that. We need to talk!". But I asked him if she said it back and he said "yes".
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.