"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Do you think I'm pretty?"
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
playainthemaking
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Wait why would you not complement her if shes your friend. You sound like an ******* to have said no. I mean if shes a friend then you should treat her as one and say that to her without her asking from time to time. Im sure she has told you that you look handsome or dress nice. If shes not a friend or your using the term roughly and your more like class mates and you have a crush on her then well i would say you need to pursue her more. If shes asking that it means shes seeking your approval cause shes attracted.
I might have sounded like an *******, but I said it sarcastically with a smile on my face, I WASNT a jackass about it, I would NEVER tell someone theyre ugly and be serious about it.playainthemaking said:
No she hasnt told me im handsome or dress nice either
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Crazy Asian
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why would u say she didn't look good?
even if she was ugly, there's no reason to put people down like that.
u know how much girls care about their appearance....
daygameguy
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Crazy Asian said:
This question has already been answered.HandyAndy said:
Crazy Asian
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i think a good response would be "only when ur standing next to me
"I dont ask people if im good looking, girls tell me on their own, im not insecure to the point where I need reassurance from a girlDonJuan11 said:
I did smile, and I did laugh when I said it, maybe I came off as an assh0le, she didnt seem to mind the rest of the day?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
daygameguy
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you could have said it more playfully though like,
i don't know. on a scale of 1 to 10, i'd give you like a 2
But again, she HAS to be pretty, at least HB 7 or above. Otherwise you make her feel better, no negging.
I can see there is nothing wrong with your ego.HandyAndy said:
Even if she didn't mind for the rest of the day, most girls ask a question like that to be reassured. Most girls, or anybody for that matter, want to be with people who bring them up, you make them feel good about themselves. Esp if you look like a model like you say, she was looking for a self esteem boost from you. It's easy to bring someone down and insult them.
Maybe the situation you were in with her was different.
Shes a cheerleader so I make fun of how she sucks at cheering and smells lol, but she knows im joking with her.
The point im trying to make is that shes gotten so used to me making fun of her, that what I said today was no big deal and is probably what she was expecting out of me.
thechallenger
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AND SAY
SURE?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
asskickery777
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Ultimate sh!t move; I had a girl hanging out with me in my dorm room complaining how her boyfriend sucked, then asked me that. In hindsight, the proper response would have been to kiss her, I am sure it would have gone a lot further than that, too. I didn't realize until much later that this girl was into me.
End result, I played the AFC card and was treated as such.
Igetit!
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Effington said:
I agree with Effington about the validation part 100%,however,I completely disagree about it being a "win-win". When a girl says that to you,she's trying to get an ego/self-esteem boost. I believe there is a right way and a wrong way to handle the situation,and if she thought that HandyAndy was being serious,then he handled it the wrong way. Instead of giving her a yes or no answer,I would have said something like,"Do I think you're pretty? Well,to be honest,I think you'd look better with your hair up/down". If her hair was down,tell her she'd look better with it up. If it was up,tell her she'd look better with it down. I guarantee you the next time she knew that she was going to see you,her hair would be the way you said it looked best.
daygameguy
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Sometimes its validation, sometimes it's a win-win. It depends on her vocal tonality and dynamics of your relationship with her.Effington said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.