"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Do you think I'm pretty?"
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
playainthemaking
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Wait why would you not complement her if shes your friend. You sound like an ******* to have said no. I mean if shes a friend then you should treat her as one and say that to her without her asking from time to time. Im sure she has told you that you look handsome or dress nice. If shes not a friend or your using the term roughly and your more like class mates and you have a crush on her then well i would say you need to pursue her more. If shes asking that it means shes seeking your approval cause shes attracted.
I might have sounded like an *******, but I said it sarcastically with a smile on my face, I WASNT a jackass about it, I would NEVER tell someone theyre ugly and be serious about it.playainthemaking said:
No she hasnt told me im handsome or dress nice either
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Crazy Asian
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why would u say she didn't look good?
even if she was ugly, there's no reason to put people down like that.
u know how much girls care about their appearance....
daygameguy
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Crazy Asian said:
This question has already been answered.HandyAndy said:
Crazy Asian
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i think a good response would be "only when ur standing next to me
"I dont ask people if im good looking, girls tell me on their own, im not insecure to the point where I need reassurance from a girlDonJuan11 said:
I did smile, and I did laugh when I said it, maybe I came off as an assh0le, she didnt seem to mind the rest of the day?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
daygameguy
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you could have said it more playfully though like,
i don't know. on a scale of 1 to 10, i'd give you like a 2
But again, she HAS to be pretty, at least HB 7 or above. Otherwise you make her feel better, no negging.
I can see there is nothing wrong with your ego.HandyAndy said:
Even if she didn't mind for the rest of the day, most girls ask a question like that to be reassured. Most girls, or anybody for that matter, want to be with people who bring them up, you make them feel good about themselves. Esp if you look like a model like you say, she was looking for a self esteem boost from you. It's easy to bring someone down and insult them.
Maybe the situation you were in with her was different.
Shes a cheerleader so I make fun of how she sucks at cheering and smells lol, but she knows im joking with her.
The point im trying to make is that shes gotten so used to me making fun of her, that what I said today was no big deal and is probably what she was expecting out of me.
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AND SAY
SURE?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
asskickery777
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Ultimate sh!t move; I had a girl hanging out with me in my dorm room complaining how her boyfriend sucked, then asked me that. In hindsight, the proper response would have been to kiss her, I am sure it would have gone a lot further than that, too. I didn't realize until much later that this girl was into me.
End result, I played the AFC card and was treated as such.
Igetit!
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Effington said:
I agree with Effington about the validation part 100%,however,I completely disagree about it being a "win-win". When a girl says that to you,she's trying to get an ego/self-esteem boost. I believe there is a right way and a wrong way to handle the situation,and if she thought that HandyAndy was being serious,then he handled it the wrong way. Instead of giving her a yes or no answer,I would have said something like,"Do I think you're pretty? Well,to be honest,I think you'd look better with your hair up/down". If her hair was down,tell her she'd look better with it up. If it was up,tell her she'd look better with it down. I guarantee you the next time she knew that she was going to see you,her hair would be the way you said it looked best.
daygameguy
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Sometimes its validation, sometimes it's a win-win. It depends on her vocal tonality and dynamics of your relationship with her.Effington said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.