You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Not always certain myself, but what you said is definitley not it.HandyAndy said:I got asked this today by a friend, whats the point of asking this and what does it even mean?
I said "nah, not really" by the way, but she is pretty though
I might have sounded like an *******, but I said it sarcastically with a smile on my face, I WASNT a jackass about it, I would NEVER tell someone theyre ugly and be serious about it.playainthemaking said:Wait why would you not complement her if shes your friend. You sound like an ******* to have said no. I mean if shes a friend then you should treat her as one and say that to her without her asking from time to time. Im sure she has told you that you look handsome or dress nice. If shes not a friend or your using the term roughly and your more like class mates and you have a crush on her then well i would say you need to pursue her more. If shes asking that it means shes seeking your approval cause shes attracted.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Crazy Asian said:wut?
why would u say she didn't look good?
even if she was ugly, there's no reason to put people down like that.
u know how much girls care about their appearance....
This question has already been answered.HandyAndy said:I might have sounded like an *******, but I said it sarcastically with a smile on my face, I WASNT a jackass about it, I would NEVER tell someone theyre ugly and be serious about it.
Wow. What if you asked her "do you think I'm good looking?" And she said "Nah, not really" half jokingly.HandyAndy said:I got asked this today by a friend, whats the point of asking this and what does it even mean?
I said "nah, not really" by the way, but she is pretty though
I dont ask people if im good looking, girls tell me on their own, im not insecure to the point where I need reassurance from a girlDonJuan11 said:Wow. What if you asked her "do you think I'm good looking?" And she said "Nah, not really" half jokingly.
Would that turn you on?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can see there is nothing wrong with your ego.HandyAndy said:I dont ask people if im good looking, girls tell me on their own, im not insecure to the point where I need reassurance from a girl
I did smile, and I did laugh when I said it, maybe I came off as an assh0le, she didnt seem to mind the rest of the day?
Well its a little to late, isn't it?thechallenger said:go HA HA HA CHUCKLE
AND SAY
SURE?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Effington said:I always thought that was the "kiss me" line. She's obviously looking for validation; it's a win-win.
Sometimes its validation, sometimes it's a win-win. It depends on her vocal tonality and dynamics of your relationship with her.Effington said:I always thought that was the "kiss me" line. She's obviously looking for validation; it's a win-win.
Ultimate sh!t move; I had a girl hanging out with me in my dorm room complaining how her boyfriend sucked, then asked me that. In hindsight, the proper response would have been to kiss her, I am sure it would have gone a lot further than that, too. I didn't realize until much later that this girl was into me.
End result, I played the AFC card and was treated as such.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.