In this case I stand to be corrected. I do have female cousins, like you do, but when you have been ignored by them, then you say that you don't have female cousins because its like they don't exist to you. For the record, I didn't personally mean to say I do not have any female cousins, but was talking more of a generalization.
I have two sides of the family, the Italian-white side and the Black side, each has their own issues, but as a net, I don't really talk to anyone except an aunt or my mother. The Black side of the family, I feel has been the result of a rift because of issues that have come up. The Italian side I would feel they did not support my business and wasted my time and hired other white agents so I'm turned off with them too. Of the Italian family that's not blacklisted in my mind as racist, well, they have their own lives and I can't really hit on my female cousins romantically. I've tried to get nice with one Italian cousin, but she has not shown that reciprocal level of interest and, of course she has her own life.
I'm assuming you just have one racial make-up with your family so you can't even accuse any cousin of being racist?