She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Very good breakdown! Especially the part about OVERTRAINED, and SIZE AND STRENGTH DO MATTER! It is so annoying how guys here think a fast, ripped guy has an equal advantage! It is common sense that the good big guy will always beat the good little guy! Further, being very ripped is not good for your body!Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
Bruce Lee was a physical phenomenon in terms of speed, co-ordination and reaction time.
He further enhanced his attributes with extensive and intelligent training.
He was also REVOLUTIONARY and WAY AHEAD OF HIS TIME in his practice of CROSS TRAINING, combining
-Multiple martial arts into a comprehensive system
-Recognizing the value of supplementing martial arts with exercise
He was great IN HIS DAY.
He never formally fought in the ring with HIGHLY TRAINED OPPONENTS, so it is difficult to say how tough a fighter he really was.
Engaging in streetfights where opponents were of questionable skill does not qualify as an indicator of how good a fighter a person is in relation to the TOP PROFESSIONAL FIGHTERS.
Professionals like Chuck Norris and other champs of the day trained with him because he had impressive theories to improve their game, but NONE OF THEM had actually FOUGHT him. They DID acknowledge his SKILL, however.
If you read his book TAO OF JKD, Bruce's preference as far as striking goes leans towards Western Boxing, Kickboxing and Savate. His grappling focus is more towards Judo for throws, and Jiu Jitsu/Judo type ground techniques.
I think that the modern martial arts world has caught up to him, as far as NHB sport fighting is concerned.
Just as the Gracie family's dominance in UFC and PRIDE has gradually dwindled as other competitors over the years improved their familiarity with various aspects of the game, Bruce's POTENTIAL dominance as a fighter would have dwindled as well.
Perhaps in his weight class, Bruce Lee would have been among the tops today. BUT, like it or not, SIZE AND STRENGTH MATTER.
I guarantee you that any decent heavyweight striker would hit harder than Bruce Lee, and would be able to handle more physical punishment by virtue of thicker tisse and bone. Any decent fighter also knows how to protect vital areas from damage, as well, so it would be unlikely that Bruce would land an incapacitating blow quickly enough to be overwhelmed by a much larger SKILLED opponent's size and strength.
Bruce Lee's obession with leanness and conditioning put him in a constant state of being overtrained. He was plagued by headaches, dizziness, insomnia and irritability during the filming of Enter the Dragon (the last film he completed prior to his death). He was NOT a happy, healthy, well balanced individual, according to eyewitness reports and testimony of those that knew him, his Brilliance notwithstanding.
For you and Sweetcheeks...Originally posted by CLOONEY
Very good breakdown! Especially the part about OVERTRAINED, and SIZE AND STRENGTH DO MATTER! It is so annoying how guys here think a fast, ripped guy has an equal advantage! It is common sense that the good big guy will always beat the good little guy! Further, being very ripped is not good for your body!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Once again, HEAVYWEIGHTS!Originally posted by KillaPetehog
No way, man. I've seen people beat the shyt out of people twice thier size. It's not all about size...it's about skill. In most cases, I'd agree with you...but in this case, it's not all about size. Even in the UFC or in real fights, I've seen people beat the shyt out of people twice thier size.
Did you see that fight against the "Hammer" in UFC?
Fine...I'll give an example that EVERYBODY KNOWS...
Mike Tyson.
Big guy...but actually when you really think about it....compared to most heavyweights, he was short. About 5'11...211 lbs
Remember the fight? Frank Bruno Vs. Mike Tyson? Frank Bruno was taller than Mike. He had bigger arms than Mike. He had more mass and muscle than Mike. He was more ripped than MIke.
He stood at 6 foot 3, 247 pounds....and it was ALL muscle!!
These were his numbers....!!!!
Height: 6 foot 3
Weight: 247 pounds
Reach of 82
Chest 48
Waist 34
Biceps 17
Neck 18
Wrist 9
Calf 17
Ankle 10
Thigh 24
Fist 14
Forearm 14
Mike Tyson
Height: 5'11
Weight: 218 pounds
Reach of 72
Chest 43
Waist 34
Biceps 16
Neck 19 3/4
Wrist 8
Calf 18
Ankle 11
Thigh 27
Fist 14
Forearm 14
Just imagine if you will....
You're fighting a guy who's almost 30 pounds heavier than you, almost 4 inches taller than you, has a bigger chest than you(by about 5 inches), has a bigger reach than you(by about 10), has bigger biceps than you.....
In the 3rd round, Mike Tyson takes down the giant.
It's skill...not size. Size does help though....but a big man with no skill is useless.
Exactly!Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
WEIGHT - Striking has more to do with shifting weight and timing than it does with strength. That is why a skilled smaller guy can hit harder than untrained bigger guys. However, this is also why a trained larger guy will hit harder than a similarly skilled smaller guy.
Finally, why do you think they have WEIGHT CLASSES?
Ludacris-- Hustle & FlowOriginally posted by Deadly_Assassin
I once read a quote, I dunno who its by
"Its not the size of the dog in the fight that matters, but the size of fight in the dog that does."
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It was Dwight D Eisenhower during WW2.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Ludacris-- Hustle & Flow