Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Standards only exist for women. You, too, can be a fat whale and still get a fit guy.I was looking at this pic at my bank's website, and it got me thinking:
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my opinion: The man seems to be in good shape, even Chad-tier, while the woman is rather small breasted even as a beach ball.![]()
It still does. If anything, the person with the right idea and funding can steal the market share that all the companies gave up.So much for the concept in Marketing 101... "Sex Sells".
For a while the adverts were anti-aspirational (ex, more gay people in ads than in real life, more minorities, etc, less masculine men)Advertising is no longer aspirational, marketers are now pandering to people that actually look this way. Advertising will always go where the top dollar is. Make people feel good about themselves and they will buy your products.
I work at the largest county hospital in a very large metropolitan area on the western coast of the United States. You might be amazed, but 95% of my patients are obese, not 10lbs overweight - 40-50 and more. It’s eye opening.
More and more patient rooms have CRANES hanging from the ceilings to facilitate the movement of these land whales, because even 3-4 healthy strong staff members struggle just to roll them on their sides.
There are specialized beds now that can handle these heavier patients now, I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve gone to lift a persons bed or angle it for a procedure and the motors simply die.
The adverts above are the reality of what our population looks like today.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yikes! Back in the day, California was known for fit people who exercised and ate well. Women in leg warmers doing jazzercise and men in the gyms pumping iron. Now we have more pot dispensaries than gyms. The societal bar seems very low these days, don’t want to ”offend” anyone by suggesting their outcome reflects their effort. Advertisers just have to adjust to the market and tread lightly or they‘ll end up with a Bud Lite situation.Advertising is no longer aspirational, marketers are now pandering to people that actually look this way. Advertising will always go where the top dollar is. Make people feel good about themselves and they will buy your products.
I work at the largest county hospital in a very large metropolitan area on the western coast of the United States. You might be amazed, but 95% of my patients are obese, not 10lbs overweight - 40-50 and more. It’s eye opening.
More and more patient rooms have CRANES hanging from the ceilings to facilitate the movement of these land whales, because even 3-4 healthy strong staff members struggle just to roll them on their sides.
There are specialized beds now that can handle these heavier patients now, I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve gone to lift a persons bed or angle it for a procedure and the motors simply die.
The adverts above are the reality of what our population looks like today.