That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Standards only exist for women. You, too, can be a fat whale and still get a fit guy.I was looking at this pic at my bank's website, and it got me thinking:
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my opinion: The man seems to be in good shape, even Chad-tier, while the woman is rather small breasted even as a beach ball.![]()
It still does. If anything, the person with the right idea and funding can steal the market share that all the companies gave up.So much for the concept in Marketing 101... "Sex Sells".
For a while the adverts were anti-aspirational (ex, more gay people in ads than in real life, more minorities, etc, less masculine men)Advertising is no longer aspirational, marketers are now pandering to people that actually look this way. Advertising will always go where the top dollar is. Make people feel good about themselves and they will buy your products.
I work at the largest county hospital in a very large metropolitan area on the western coast of the United States. You might be amazed, but 95% of my patients are obese, not 10lbs overweight - 40-50 and more. It’s eye opening.
More and more patient rooms have CRANES hanging from the ceilings to facilitate the movement of these land whales, because even 3-4 healthy strong staff members struggle just to roll them on their sides.
There are specialized beds now that can handle these heavier patients now, I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve gone to lift a persons bed or angle it for a procedure and the motors simply die.
The adverts above are the reality of what our population looks like today.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yikes! Back in the day, California was known for fit people who exercised and ate well. Women in leg warmers doing jazzercise and men in the gyms pumping iron. Now we have more pot dispensaries than gyms. The societal bar seems very low these days, don’t want to ”offend” anyone by suggesting their outcome reflects their effort. Advertisers just have to adjust to the market and tread lightly or they‘ll end up with a Bud Lite situation.Advertising is no longer aspirational, marketers are now pandering to people that actually look this way. Advertising will always go where the top dollar is. Make people feel good about themselves and they will buy your products.
I work at the largest county hospital in a very large metropolitan area on the western coast of the United States. You might be amazed, but 95% of my patients are obese, not 10lbs overweight - 40-50 and more. It’s eye opening.
More and more patient rooms have CRANES hanging from the ceilings to facilitate the movement of these land whales, because even 3-4 healthy strong staff members struggle just to roll them on their sides.
There are specialized beds now that can handle these heavier patients now, I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve gone to lift a persons bed or angle it for a procedure and the motors simply die.
The adverts above are the reality of what our population looks like today.