"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you say "I love you" every time she does?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SharinganUser

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Until I know I am dating her exclusively and I think it's going to work out, I just reply with "I know."
 
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S. Pryor

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I noticed that you said dating and not in a relationship. If she's saying it ALL the time then she has issues. Usually when there's a constant flood of "love" going on then that may mean that person likes you more than you like them. How do you feel about her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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katatonia

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Yellow flag, she's constantly telling you how much she loves you and you're only dating? How long have you been dating? Watch out for this one.

And no you don't have to say it back at all.
 
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Agreed!

The most pathetical thing is life is to see people saying 'I love you' as frequently as they do 'I gotta pee'.

You don't have to say it back, but expect her to say that more and more as her insecurity increases...
 
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I like this girl, so I do want to show her affection. But with how much she says it I feel like I would be showerin her with it. I haven't said it back to her yet, but is that too harsh? I'm just havin trouble finding a middle ground where I can say things like that without her thinkin I'm wrapped around her finger.
 
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say it went you want to. if its excessive cos she is insecure then maybe pay her more attention. if she is low-self esteem its best to walk imo. you are overthinking about being wrapped around her finger, its okay to show love and affection if you like her. most guys in this community lacked love from their mothers and is why they have showing this side of themselves.
 
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I've waited as long as a year and a half to tell a chick I lover her.. keeps it a challenge.

You can show her you love her without saying those words...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Only say it if you mean it. And no I don't. Not to play childish games,or this hard to get non-sense,but sometimes I just smile or kiss my girl back to let her know.
 
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Ya, I probably am overthinking this...thanks to all who responded, this was a big help
 
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You can say it back. It doesn't mean anything. It will only mean something if you actually back it up. People (not just girls) don't care what you say to them; they care what you do for them and how you act towards them. Show her you love her (if indeed you do, otherwise next her). Other than that, say it as often as you want. Talk is cheap.

Put some thought into a gift/date. Surprise her. Take her somewhere she's never been. Be spontaneous. Live life with her.
 
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Hell no!

Men are supposed to say "I love you too". Also, men are supposed to say some other witty sh*t mixed in with that.

Case closed.
 
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