Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
). Otherwise you're just dressing up and expect girls to come to you.Why am I not suprised you appeared in this thread? Go on, I'll bite this time.Just a Shot Away said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Of course any woman will be more attracted to A. But you are using binary thinking. Firstly (to the OP) do you look like B? Do you look like A? Or are you more realistically somewhere in between? If you are somewhere in the average guy range, pretty flat belly, or a little pot with some muscle tone or at least not flabby, you're doing pretty good. You add style and game and its on.Tesl said:
Are you suggesting that you would buy a car with a CD player included over one that is not? Yeah, it's not going to make or break your decision. Same with abs. Yeah, it's nice to have (for some girls, a lot of girls would rather have a guy with a belly) but it's by no means a necessity. Fat guys bang chicks on the spot while a guy with a six-pack stands on the sidelines and helplessly watches all the time. Have you never been to a bar?Tesl said:
I assume that's directed at me since it's right after my post, but of course I'd rather bang a fit girl. I'm a guy, so I'm attracted to looks. Males are very visual creatures, which is why we like flashy cars, cool little electronic gizmos and can get sexually aroused from the mere sight of T&A.hb said:
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I agree with you 2000%. My post was directed at Just a shot away, who is a little bit ... special. Using exaggerated examples is best when speaking to him.Warrior74 said:
Okay, so you are agreeing that looks matter - you just don't think they matter all that much. Thats fine, sounds like we are more or less in agreement then, cheers!Just a Shot Away said:
Me said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.