The attitude of this site seems to be that women are lesser than men (may or may not be true on average). I'm wondering how many of you guys actually love your girlfriends, rather than simply simply gaming them till you get bored. How much would you compromise to be with her?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
do you love your girlfriend?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her. 
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
*snickers*
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
mofro said:Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her.
Exactly what I was like with my ex. Thats love man.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I love my girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that I am dead and don't look at other girls.
I do really love my girlfriend and will NOT cheat on her. I have too much respect for her and she trusts me absolutely.
comic_relief
I do really love my girlfriend and will NOT cheat on her. I have too much respect for her and she trusts me absolutely.
comic_relief
spoken like a true dj^....I have my times when i do and times when I dont.... I still game because I dont want to be a Chump if she cheats on me. I dont want to be alll BOOHOO crying wanting to die because she left me I just want to be indifferent about it and when she says lets see other people just pick up my phone and call the next canidate and ask her over to MY house tonight all in front of my X.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
do you love your girlfriend?
Maybe, but I am never going to let her find out!
Maybe, but I am never going to let her find out!
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Do you realize how stupid that sounds? You're not going to let her find out? Really? Are you a fvcking moron? You think if you tell her how you feel she's going to leave you? "OMG MY B/F TOLD ME HE LOVES ME, I'M SOOOO LEAVING!!11oneone"
The majority of the people on this forum are completely clueless and brainwashed to the point of no return.
The majority of the people on this forum are completely clueless and brainwashed to the point of no return.
I love my girlfriend. I love it when she's happy, and I value her very highly on many levels. But I don't need to be with her for my own happiness, and if she decides she wants to stop seeing me or I decide vice versa, I'm confident that a woman similarly well matched to my personality, intellect, sex drive and demand for black lace and summer dresses will be right around the corner. So, does this mean I'm deficient in some respect? Who knows. I'm a one woman at a time guy, but not a one woman guy. Important difference I reckon.
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Totally agree, when I was young I was in a relationship for a year with a girl I loved and was tooo affraid to say it. Got kicked in the teeth for that didn't I.Snowman23 said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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YEAH! Dumn fvcks!!! :cuss: Everyone should know that love has nothing to do with these things being mutual! You can feel all of these things and love her even if she treats you like a chump and sees other guys (such as Franciscomofro said:Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her.
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
) behind your back! :woo:"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
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In other words, isn't love like oneitis?
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Nope, I don't love her. I'm only with her to kill time until I find someone better. It's been like that for a long time.
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Snowman23 said:
Fine with me. Everyone thinks like that.
Bible_Belt
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fwiw, the gf I am thinking of has been with me about a week. That changes a lot. I actually started a thread once with a poll on how long you wait until saying 'I love you' to a gf. Most guys said 3-6 months, or when they felt it was mutual, although I think about 20% answered 'never.'Snowman23 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.