The attitude of this site seems to be that women are lesser than men (may or may not be true on average). I'm wondering how many of you guys actually love your girlfriends, rather than simply simply gaming them till you get bored. How much would you compromise to be with her?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
do you love your girlfriend?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her. 
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
*snickers*
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
mofro said:Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her.
Exactly what I was like with my ex. Thats love man.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I love my girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that I am dead and don't look at other girls.
I do really love my girlfriend and will NOT cheat on her. I have too much respect for her and she trusts me absolutely.
comic_relief
I do really love my girlfriend and will NOT cheat on her. I have too much respect for her and she trusts me absolutely.
comic_relief
spoken like a true dj^....I have my times when i do and times when I dont.... I still game because I dont want to be a Chump if she cheats on me. I dont want to be alll BOOHOO crying wanting to die because she left me I just want to be indifferent about it and when she says lets see other people just pick up my phone and call the next canidate and ask her over to MY house tonight all in front of my X.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
do you love your girlfriend?
Maybe, but I am never going to let her find out!
Maybe, but I am never going to let her find out!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Do you realize how stupid that sounds? You're not going to let her find out? Really? Are you a fvcking moron? You think if you tell her how you feel she's going to leave you? "OMG MY B/F TOLD ME HE LOVES ME, I'M SOOOO LEAVING!!11oneone"
The majority of the people on this forum are completely clueless and brainwashed to the point of no return.
The majority of the people on this forum are completely clueless and brainwashed to the point of no return.
I love my girlfriend. I love it when she's happy, and I value her very highly on many levels. But I don't need to be with her for my own happiness, and if she decides she wants to stop seeing me or I decide vice versa, I'm confident that a woman similarly well matched to my personality, intellect, sex drive and demand for black lace and summer dresses will be right around the corner. So, does this mean I'm deficient in some respect? Who knows. I'm a one woman at a time guy, but not a one woman guy. Important difference I reckon.
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Totally agree, when I was young I was in a relationship for a year with a girl I loved and was tooo affraid to say it. Got kicked in the teeth for that didn't I.Snowman23 said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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YEAH! Dumn fvcks!!! :cuss: Everyone should know that love has nothing to do with these things being mutual! You can feel all of these things and love her even if she treats you like a chump and sees other guys (such as Franciscomofro said:Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her.
Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
) behind your back! :woo:"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
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In other words, isn't love like oneitis?
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Nope, I don't love her. I'm only with her to kill time until I find someone better. It's been like that for a long time.
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Snowman23 said:
Fine with me. Everyone thinks like that.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
fwiw, the gf I am thinking of has been with me about a week. That changes a lot. I actually started a thread once with a poll on how long you wait until saying 'I love you' to a gf. Most guys said 3-6 months, or when they felt it was mutual, although I think about 20% answered 'never.'Snowman23 said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.