ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Don't you like sports?!?Maxtro said:I'm actually struggling with the reason why I'd want guy friends at all.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Don't you like sports?!?Maxtro said:I'm actually struggling with the reason why I'd want guy friends at all.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There aren't any sports I like to watch on TV. Every now and then I play an active team sport. Since I'm not that big of a guy 5'6, I can't really compete on the really physical sports. Any sport I'd want to play, girls can also do. I don't bother with football, basketball, hockey, baseball etc. Basically anything that requires size and strength to succeed.ARrocket said:Don't you like sports?!?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Very well said, couldn't agree more.. just had to add their assI do rather enjoy the company of guys more than women...
Why I like male friends more:
- First off men don't constantly whine about their troubles...
------------>Yes i know there are women who don't do this, I just haven't met any who don't whine yet
- They don't have moodswings
- They don't ask for kiss on the cheek everytime you see them
----------> What if one of these women that I don't want to kiss has mouth herpes...
- There are more men then women with the same intrests as me
- My male friends motivate me more than my female friends (especially at drinking - all my exes were so demotivating on that part )
BUT!!!
What I do like about female friends:
- Sex... duh...
- I love beating women at games... The worst losers in games I've met so far have alwayse been women, ESPECIALLY my ex!
- Their pissed off reactions to some of my actions can be super funny... They are easy targets to piss off... Sometimes I like being a prick...
- Some of them can cook
- Some of them can clean, some even start to clean when they're bored!
- Some of them got hot female friends...
- Boobs
- Their Ass
So women clearly do have a positive side aswell!
what kind of loser friends do you have that would rather sit at home alone playing video games (world of warcraft I assume) than go out and be social?Sherlock-Holmes said:Personally, i find females easier to talk to, easier to express our feelings. when some guys hear this, they'll think we're gay or whatever. most guys i know play computer games; and rather spend the weekend playing games at home (alone) rather then go out for a hike, a movie or just chill out. girls are the total opposite.
imo, there are just somethings that girls are good at. perhaps what i'm saying is that they're more sensitive and such. of course, when going out i'll prefer a mixture of both!
Cheers!
Scion said:what kind of loser friends do you have that would rather sit at home alone playing video games (world of warcraft I assume) than go out and be social?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yikes! I love women so much that I don't really even have any male friends. I don't like men too much, I find them very dull.Miles28 said:What I mean is that we all (myself included) put a lot of time, thought and effort into women because we want to sleep with them. However if it wasn't for that I'm not sure if I'd even bother with girls at all. Compared to my male friends I have to say that the women I know are generally much less funny, less interesting, incapable of self deprecation, more prone to ramble on pointlessly, more superficial, more prone to melodrama etc, etc.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
As your name suggests you've made the most amazing posts in this thread thus far. You get rep.Amazing said:Good lord, what am I reading, raising kids? Having sex? What's next, not being lonely at 60?
The thread is not DO YOU EVER NOT WANT TO BE AROUND WOMEN
it is more like "Do you find that you would not prefer women to be around when you are doing things, unlike guy friends" - at least that's what I am getting out of it.
Look, I have female friends, and there is usually 2 days I call them - fri/sat. Because when i go out I want to have girls with me. They also call me those two days. They do not call me on Tuesday to go with them and get their hair done. I don't call them to play basketball (I've tried, it's only good for flirting, if she is your FRIEND what's the point?) I don't call them to go see a movie. My friends who have girlfriends do - because that's their "quality" time. Why would I take a girl to a movie if I don't want to sex her after?
remove SEX out of your monkey heads and think clearly, what is the reason for bringing a woman when there is a men, unless it is a social thing OR a maternal thing like you need her to take care of you while sick or give you a massage.
People are all individual, fine. There are plenty of women who can share experiences (though most suck at telling stories) but as you spend more time, the constant talking, the "LOOK AT ME" attitude, the fake self depreciation to get a compliment it will come out.
That's why you DO NOT take women seriously - you just glide. And I say gliding 24/7 hanging out with women is NOT SANE for any man. We need substance. We need male company.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.