Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I do pretty high intensity full body with a lot of super setting a few times a week and I fear i'll just crash afterwards if I do it in the morning. Currently with my schedule i'm not done lifting until close to 11/12am though and i'm settled or relaxing post work until then. I like the concept of swallowing the frog which means do the hardest thing you want to do the least early in the day. That hard part is I love the gym and look forward to it.I used to work out in evenings for years and had motivation issues and inconsistent workouts. Thought it was just the norm, some days better than others and all that. Lately (last 5 months) I switched to first thing in the morning. It's been great and definitely sets the mood for the day, but not if I go too hard, setting PR's or just a monster workout, I'll be wiped for the day. Also struggling with stiffness, cause morning , is a new challenge to compete with too.
Yeah those gurus preeching to wake up at 6 and hit the gym at 7 are borderline retards as if someone could fight his genetics and his late 10 years habits out of nowhere.It comes down to personal preference - but since I have never been a morning person, my morning workouts were always terrible. Even working out at noon causes a substantial drop in my performance compared to the evening. My best workouts are always around 7-8pm. I do recall seeing studies that confirm your strength peaks in the evening which is based on our natural circadian rhythms - not sure about cardio endurance though, but who cares.
I truly hate all the self development "gurus" who try to convince everyone that working out early in the morning is the best. On the contary, I also recall hearing that if you workout early in the day, your dopamine levels will spike early then crash - and I absolutely notice this. I truly don't understand people who claim that working out "energizes" them for the entire day. That post-workout high only seems to last 1-2 hrs in my experience, and is followed by a crash regardless of when/what I eat.
Seems much better to go through all the stresses of your day then release it in a workout, come home, eat dinner, then go to bed in a couple hours after dinner (which people also think is bad, but they're incorrect).
Damn, I don't know how you could go out after lifting. I don't leave my garage gym without noodle legs lol. My 'off'days I just started jiu jitsu late in the evening and even after those sessions the last thing i'm thinking about is boozing on the town.I notice that my muscles perform better in the evening 5pm/7pm while my focus and energy is higher in late morning/early afternoon.
Im not one of those guys that falls asleep after physical performances, quite the opposite actually.
So generally I found myself more comfortable doing MMA at lunch time and lifting weight around 6pm.
The best was lifting in the evening then dining and then hitting the club till late night in my 20s.
Nowadays I find a balance and wanna have two meals before training or one big meal+ pre workout but be done before 7pm.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
my 'gym' is my cold ass garage with squat rack, tower and some dumbells lolMorning. I love first thing. Gym is empty and mainly it’s older dudes with families, all the young trendies aren’t there.
there is no way in hell I could go to the gym in the evening and try to come back and sleep. Gym Amps me up.
The best explaination I've heard is that random variation in sleep preferences offered a selective advantage.. Think about it - if an entire tribe went to sleep and woke up at the same time, it would leave them vulnerable to predation, and they'd also have considerable downtime where they're doing nothing productive. If you have variation, with some people preferring to wake up at different times, it keeps productivity up and ensures they won't get ambushed by predators. So, over time this became an evolutionary adaptation that clearly hasn't gone away.Yeah those gurus preeching to wake up at 6 and hit the gym at 7 are borderline retards as if someone could fight his genetics and his late 10 years habits out of nowhere.
Being a morning person is not a matter of commitment or effort as many say, often times is related to genetic and personality traits.
An introvert for example needs hours alone in quiet to properly recover and those hours often come late night when everyone else is sleeping and silent.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Home gym is great. I HATE going to the gym and having to wait around for people or deal with the clout chaser types. That and I can keep my heart rate up with super setting at home. Totally worth a few hundred bucks12pm-2pm home gym (best thing I ever done)
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8am if at a gym
I love the flexibility it gives me, I can actually work out 6x per week and enjoy it, in my own environment, no rushing I can get good rest between sets, and before I realise I've done 90-120 minutes. I usually aim for 60 minutes per work out though.Home gym is great. I HATE going to the gym and having to wait around for people or deal with the clout chaser types. That and I can keep my heart rate up with super setting at home. Totally worth a few hundred bucks
Agreed, last night after work I went too hard doing a circuit of 5x5s, Wide grip bench, Chins-lateral raises-calf raises- dead hang all to failure with a minute rest at the end. I cannot do that kinda of superseted routine at a gym without flying all over the place and taking up more time/equipment then needed.I love the flexibility it gives me, I can actually work out 6x per week and enjoy it, in my own environment, no rushing I can get good rest between sets, and before I realise I've done 90-120 minutes. I usually aim for 60 minutes per work out though.
At a normal gym I feel rushed.
I tried early mornings(like 6am, which isn't early for some but early for me) and I hated it even tho I did it for a while...I've always been a night owl and have always worked out late in the evening. Debated switching to early mornings recently.
What do you guys typically do and why?
Currently, I'm beginning to think my routine is causing my sleep schedule issues.I tried early mornings(like 6am, which isn't early for some but early for me) and I hated it even tho I did it for a while...
Hydration was always an issue first thing in the AM for me which effected the amount of weight I could lift. Always was consistently less than it I was properly hydrated and lifting in the evening.
There is some science that shows the best time to lift based on your hormonal cycles that ebb and flow throughout the day would be late afternoon or early evening...like anywhere in the 3-7pm range.
Working out too late in the evening used to cause sleep problems.for me and apparently is a common issue so that is something else to keep in mind if you are working out intensely...
But the most important thing overall is that you do it at some point in the day versus the time you do it at, so whatever ends up being the most convenient way that will allow you to stick with it is what you should do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.