"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well, there's this new girl at work. She seems shy. The first time I saw her I walked up to her and was like "hey my name is golf299, what's yours?" she gave me her name and that was it.

we work in two different areas at work so i don't really get to see/talk to her much at all.

recently she took a vacation, and she just started the job! so, i decided to give her some crap about it: "you just started working her and already taking vacation, huh? i wish i could work for a week and take a week off. that's a pretty sweet deal you've got" --all said smiling and in a joking manner.

what was her response? no comment and she just turned away from me. WTF?

i know that's not much to go on, but do you have any insight, or similar experiences?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No I don't know the girls, but I think you just established yourself as an ass.

I've had similar experience when I thought what I would say would be good but they totally took it the wrong way. Most of the time, you plan it too much. It's not totally lost though. You still might have a chance.

Just play your cards right,
 
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If she keeps 'not talking' call her on it maybe?
 
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Did she take Vacation or is that what they are calling it. She may of had somthing going on in her life that was serious and that is why she took that time off, not vacation. Serious look at from managment POV would you allow a new employee to take vacation that soon...

You may have really F'd Up. Yo!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by zerocelcius
Did she take Vacation or is that what they are calling it. She may of had somthing going on in her life that was serious and that is why she took that time off, not vacation. Serious look at from managment POV would you allow a new employee to take vacation that soon...

You may have really F'd Up. Yo!
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Yeah, this is a good point. Of course, if she really was on vacation and gave you that response, she has a stick up her arse and not worth the trouble. A girl with 'some what' of a personality and a sense of humor would have at least made a smart comment back. NEXT!!
 
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