"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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do you kiss/hug on a first date?

tony-montana

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got a date tomorrow... do you kiss their cheek on a first date or hug or just say hello and sit down and talk?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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scrouds

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I go for the hug hello. Kiss on the cheek is not my style, and is generally reserved for family and close friends.

ACCEPT NO IMMITATIONS either. haha.
 
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Just go for what feels natural there and then. Your behavior should mostly or only just have guidelines, never strict rules. Being a robot is boring. What feels natural is almost always what is right. Trust your instinct. It's a reason we have it.

A kiss can come natural after meeting a person in a few seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months.
 
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Allurre

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Leave the hugging alone and kissing alone.

1st Dates = Get to know her. Stay mysterious, but leave the window to you slightly open. Let her talk. Don't RUSH.

2nd Date = Proceed to more intimate bases. Kiss.

Now, that's just how I roll. If you prefer to let your instinct guide you, then go ahead, if the vibe is right, go for lip lock.
 

DonGorgon

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if you dont at least kiss on the lips on the first meeting she is not into you... hugs mean nothing but a tight hug and kiss is great.. if she gives you a light lame hug and pats your back you are done..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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