"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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do you kiss/hug on a first date?

tony-montana

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got a date tomorrow... do you kiss their cheek on a first date or hug or just say hello and sit down and talk?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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scrouds

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I go for the hug hello. Kiss on the cheek is not my style, and is generally reserved for family and close friends.

ACCEPT NO IMMITATIONS either. haha.
 
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Just go for what feels natural there and then. Your behavior should mostly or only just have guidelines, never strict rules. Being a robot is boring. What feels natural is almost always what is right. Trust your instinct. It's a reason we have it.

A kiss can come natural after meeting a person in a few seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months.
 
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Allurre

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Leave the hugging alone and kissing alone.

1st Dates = Get to know her. Stay mysterious, but leave the window to you slightly open. Let her talk. Don't RUSH.

2nd Date = Proceed to more intimate bases. Kiss.

Now, that's just how I roll. If you prefer to let your instinct guide you, then go ahead, if the vibe is right, go for lip lock.
 

DonGorgon

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if you dont at least kiss on the lips on the first meeting she is not into you... hugs mean nothing but a tight hug and kiss is great.. if she gives you a light lame hug and pats your back you are done..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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