"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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do you kiss/hug on a first date?

tony-montana

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got a date tomorrow... do you kiss their cheek on a first date or hug or just say hello and sit down and talk?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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scrouds

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I go for the hug hello. Kiss on the cheek is not my style, and is generally reserved for family and close friends.

ACCEPT NO IMMITATIONS either. haha.
 
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Just go for what feels natural there and then. Your behavior should mostly or only just have guidelines, never strict rules. Being a robot is boring. What feels natural is almost always what is right. Trust your instinct. It's a reason we have it.

A kiss can come natural after meeting a person in a few seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months.
 
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Allurre

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Leave the hugging alone and kissing alone.

1st Dates = Get to know her. Stay mysterious, but leave the window to you slightly open. Let her talk. Don't RUSH.

2nd Date = Proceed to more intimate bases. Kiss.

Now, that's just how I roll. If you prefer to let your instinct guide you, then go ahead, if the vibe is right, go for lip lock.
 

DonGorgon

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if you dont at least kiss on the lips on the first meeting she is not into you... hugs mean nothing but a tight hug and kiss is great.. if she gives you a light lame hug and pats your back you are done..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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