I can honestly say most of my friends are from my old days as a club DJ (disc jockey). They are all around late 20s and seem to be refusing to grow up. Most of my friends my age are married with kids and live out of town. Do you find it harder to make friends at a more mature age?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Do you have a lot of friends?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MikeEdward1973
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I think that, as I've entered my 30's, my need for friendship has diminished significantly. I have fewer friends than I once did, but they are closer and better friends.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My Name is Nobody
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Yep, I have resorted to looking for friends on sosuave. Nothing wrong with that. I need some fukkng wings. And I'm not talking about chicken.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wjh
Master Don Juan
Wow that's kind of making me think about moving.Joe The Homophobe said:My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?