I can honestly say most of my friends are from my old days as a club DJ (disc jockey). They are all around late 20s and seem to be refusing to grow up. Most of my friends my age are married with kids and live out of town. Do you find it harder to make friends at a more mature age?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you have a lot of friends?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MikeEdward1973
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I think that, as I've entered my 30's, my need for friendship has diminished significantly. I have fewer friends than I once did, but they are closer and better friends.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My Name is Nobody
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Yep, I have resorted to looking for friends on sosuave. Nothing wrong with that. I need some fukkng wings. And I'm not talking about chicken.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
wjh
Master Don Juan
Wow that's kind of making me think about moving.Joe The Homophobe said:My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?