I can honestly say most of my friends are from my old days as a club DJ (disc jockey). They are all around late 20s and seem to be refusing to grow up. Most of my friends my age are married with kids and live out of town. Do you find it harder to make friends at a more mature age?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do you have a lot of friends?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MikeEdward1973
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I think that, as I've entered my 30's, my need for friendship has diminished significantly. I have fewer friends than I once did, but they are closer and better friends.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My focus, for the last 5 or 6 years, has been intently on my career, and that has also resulted in some atrophy of personal relationships. But I'm at a point where I feel I can come up for air a bit, so to speak, and will probably invest some time in restoring some of my friendships, as well as building new ones.
My Name is Nobody
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Yep, I have resorted to looking for friends on sosuave. Nothing wrong with that. I need some fukkng wings. And I'm not talking about chicken.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
I am sacrificing making friends in my new town for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox (and unhealthy) but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wjh
Master Don Juan
Wow that's kind of making me think about moving.Joe The Homophobe said:My outlook on friends changed when I took a college class at a town 30 miles from home. The feeling of not being known, nobody caring about you, doing whatever you want after all less fear of being ashamed when there ain't nobody that you could worry knowing what you're up to. My DJ game improved greatly and I realized this was what I needed, to be an unknown, a stranger who had nothing left to lose. I moved recently to another state and now I got that feeling once again. At first I wanted to make friends, go out to places where people hang out. Then I asked myself if I really needed to make friends here. I can do what I want, nobody is watching me, no expectations of me by nobody. I can now take my game to the next level.
I am sacrificing making friends for working on my game. Maybe this approach might be a little unorthodox but in reality if you were approaching would you be less ashamed of approaching knowing there might be somebody that knows you rather than being in a place full of strangers?