"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Do you have a girlfriend?
- Thread starter nonameok
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
bigjohnson
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If not for your directive i would have put no.
The flipside is that ALOT of information picked up here can be applied to current girlfriends with outstanding success.
For instance if a hot girl you're trying to get with disrespects you by flaking out - you punish her by cutting contact and teasing her with what she can't have.
If your girlfriend disrespects you or is flaking out - you punish her by diminishing contact and teasing her with what she can have. If this doesn't work you don't have the benefit of 'nexting' her as easily.
These are the same psychological mechanisms we are aiming to manipulate... and all women have them.
But when you have a girlfriend the consequences of your actions and how often you control her levels of attraction are really alot different .
By the way : No I don't have a girlfriend. My life has been deliciously drama free for over a year :rockon: . I reckon a steady squeeze will be nice when it comes along.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
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That's quite an observation you've made right there! :yes:Clarky said:
Women are always complaining about how much of a lack there is in the amount of guys they'd actually wanna be with
But, once one of the true Don Juans are released into the real world, they have no trouble keeping a women hooked
Just like in the immortal words of the great Mystery, "It's a priviledge for a woman to be picked up by a Pickup Artist"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
From my own experience with my gf, once she saw how i had a constant supply of women in my life, be it interests or even just friends she began to see me as a worthwhile guy to know.
She still has dreams about me cheating on her or leaving her, she seriously worries when ever i'm at parties or away that i may cheat, not because im untrustworthy, but like the gym class heroes song cookie jar goes 'I like girls, they like me'
She acknowledges me as a quality male, so she respects me, she treats me very well because she wants to keep me around.
Some people go to the gym just in the hope of getting more girls, sure, this works for a while but once she sees your just a built body with no personality your time is up, learning pick up is like this, you can use all the canned sh!t you can find but what happens when she wants to set up a third date? You revert to your old ways, she ****s off.
This will never keep a woman, you need personality traits or hobbies to go along side game if your planning on an LTR
To keep a high quality female, you must be a high quality male.
bukowski_merit
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I have 2 MLTRs (multiple long term relationships) established and am working on a 3rd (getting her past her fear/insecurity of sharing a man)...
MLTR#1: i've been seeing off and on for 5 years... we don't talk about other people in our lives, and we only have sex 3-4 times a month... but it wouldn't surprise me if in 10 years - we were still like this or even exclusively dating...
MLTR#2: i've been seeing about 9 months... she has a bf who is aware of me and doesn't approve (yet he's beta and won't break up with his high school sweet heart; he chooses instead to cry about it all the time to her). i have sex with this girl about 15 times a month.
Perspective MLTR#3: i know i will eventually get to agree to this; she's just not used to the idea of being with a guy and not being attached completely. we've had sex many times, but she seems reluctant to accept that i'm not going to be with her exclusively.
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It's not your fault, the poll is monumentally badly worded. It's like an homage to bad polls.bukowski_merit said:
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How about:
-single and working on it
-have a girlfriend
-dating 2-3 women
-dating 4+ women
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Smartone84
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is that considered beyond sad?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.