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Do you have a girlfriend?
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bigjohnson
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I put yes because I read your comments and I *am* nailing 3-4 on a regular basis (depending on what you call regular) but I'm certainly clear with them we're not exclusive yet.
If not for your directive i would have put no.
If not for your directive i would have put no.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Well obviously you're not going to find that many people with girlfriends on a pickup site... dude...
The flipside is that ALOT of information picked up here can be applied to current girlfriends with outstanding success.
For instance if a hot girl you're trying to get with disrespects you by flaking out - you punish her by cutting contact and teasing her with what she can't have.
If your girlfriend disrespects you or is flaking out - you punish her by diminishing contact and teasing her with what she can have. If this doesn't work you don't have the benefit of 'nexting' her as easily.
These are the same psychological mechanisms we are aiming to manipulate... and all women have them.
But when you have a girlfriend the consequences of your actions and how often you control her levels of attraction are really alot different .
By the way : No I don't have a girlfriend. My life has been deliciously drama free for over a year :rockon: . I reckon a steady squeeze will be nice when it comes along.
The flipside is that ALOT of information picked up here can be applied to current girlfriends with outstanding success.
For instance if a hot girl you're trying to get with disrespects you by flaking out - you punish her by cutting contact and teasing her with what she can't have.
If your girlfriend disrespects you or is flaking out - you punish her by diminishing contact and teasing her with what she can have. If this doesn't work you don't have the benefit of 'nexting' her as easily.
These are the same psychological mechanisms we are aiming to manipulate... and all women have them.
But when you have a girlfriend the consequences of your actions and how often you control her levels of attraction are really alot different .
By the way : No I don't have a girlfriend. My life has been deliciously drama free for over a year :rockon: . I reckon a steady squeeze will be nice when it comes along.
oakraiderz2
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Yea, dated for 5 months, official since october.
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That's quite an observation you've made right there! :yes:Clarky said:
Women are always complaining about how much of a lack there is in the amount of guys they'd actually wanna be with
But, once one of the true Don Juans are released into the real world, they have no trouble keeping a women hooked
Just like in the immortal words of the great Mystery, "It's a priviledge for a woman to be picked up by a Pickup Artist"
Exactly
From my own experience with my gf, once she saw how i had a constant supply of women in my life, be it interests or even just friends she began to see me as a worthwhile guy to know.
She still has dreams about me cheating on her or leaving her, she seriously worries when ever i'm at parties or away that i may cheat, not because im untrustworthy, but like the gym class heroes song cookie jar goes 'I like girls, they like me'
She acknowledges me as a quality male, so she respects me, she treats me very well because she wants to keep me around.
Some people go to the gym just in the hope of getting more girls, sure, this works for a while but once she sees your just a built body with no personality your time is up, learning pick up is like this, you can use all the canned sh!t you can find but what happens when she wants to set up a third date? You revert to your old ways, she ****s off.
This will never keep a woman, you need personality traits or hobbies to go along side game if your planning on an LTR
To keep a high quality female, you must be a high quality male.
From my own experience with my gf, once she saw how i had a constant supply of women in my life, be it interests or even just friends she began to see me as a worthwhile guy to know.
She still has dreams about me cheating on her or leaving her, she seriously worries when ever i'm at parties or away that i may cheat, not because im untrustworthy, but like the gym class heroes song cookie jar goes 'I like girls, they like me'
She acknowledges me as a quality male, so she respects me, she treats me very well because she wants to keep me around.
Some people go to the gym just in the hope of getting more girls, sure, this works for a while but once she sees your just a built body with no personality your time is up, learning pick up is like this, you can use all the canned sh!t you can find but what happens when she wants to set up a third date? You revert to your old ways, she ****s off.
This will never keep a woman, you need personality traits or hobbies to go along side game if your planning on an LTR
To keep a high quality female, you must be a high quality male.
bukowski_merit
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i should have said "yes" since i just answered without reading your post...
I have 2 MLTRs (multiple long term relationships) established and am working on a 3rd (getting her past her fear/insecurity of sharing a man)...
MLTR#1: i've been seeing off and on for 5 years... we don't talk about other people in our lives, and we only have sex 3-4 times a month... but it wouldn't surprise me if in 10 years - we were still like this or even exclusively dating...
MLTR#2: i've been seeing about 9 months... she has a bf who is aware of me and doesn't approve (yet he's beta and won't break up with his high school sweet heart; he chooses instead to cry about it all the time to her). i have sex with this girl about 15 times a month.
Perspective MLTR#3: i know i will eventually get to agree to this; she's just not used to the idea of being with a guy and not being attached completely. we've had sex many times, but she seems reluctant to accept that i'm not going to be with her exclusively.
I have 2 MLTRs (multiple long term relationships) established and am working on a 3rd (getting her past her fear/insecurity of sharing a man)...
MLTR#1: i've been seeing off and on for 5 years... we don't talk about other people in our lives, and we only have sex 3-4 times a month... but it wouldn't surprise me if in 10 years - we were still like this or even exclusively dating...
MLTR#2: i've been seeing about 9 months... she has a bf who is aware of me and doesn't approve (yet he's beta and won't break up with his high school sweet heart; he chooses instead to cry about it all the time to her). i have sex with this girl about 15 times a month.
Perspective MLTR#3: i know i will eventually get to agree to this; she's just not used to the idea of being with a guy and not being attached completely. we've had sex many times, but she seems reluctant to accept that i'm not going to be with her exclusively.
bigjohnson
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It's not your fault, the poll is monumentally badly worded. It's like an homage to bad polls.bukowski_merit said:
Five To One
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yeah this is going to be a very useless poll.
How about:
-single and working on it
-have a girlfriend
-dating 2-3 women
-dating 4+ women
How about:
-single and working on it
-have a girlfriend
-dating 2-3 women
-dating 4+ women
yes have a g/f for about 1 1/2 years....she is a girl who i thought was out of my league, but i was able to attain the unattainable. The funny thing is now, she is so worried about other girls trying to get at me...that she comes off as insecure at times. Surprisingly some of the most beautiful women can be some of the most insecure
jafyk
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Haven't had one since June last year.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.