"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Do you have a girlfriend?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
bigjohnson
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If not for your directive i would have put no.
The flipside is that ALOT of information picked up here can be applied to current girlfriends with outstanding success.
For instance if a hot girl you're trying to get with disrespects you by flaking out - you punish her by cutting contact and teasing her with what she can't have.
If your girlfriend disrespects you or is flaking out - you punish her by diminishing contact and teasing her with what she can have. If this doesn't work you don't have the benefit of 'nexting' her as easily.
These are the same psychological mechanisms we are aiming to manipulate... and all women have them.
But when you have a girlfriend the consequences of your actions and how often you control her levels of attraction are really alot different .
By the way : No I don't have a girlfriend. My life has been deliciously drama free for over a year :rockon: . I reckon a steady squeeze will be nice when it comes along.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
oakraiderz2
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That's quite an observation you've made right there! :yes:Clarky said:
Women are always complaining about how much of a lack there is in the amount of guys they'd actually wanna be with
But, once one of the true Don Juans are released into the real world, they have no trouble keeping a women hooked
Just like in the immortal words of the great Mystery, "It's a priviledge for a woman to be picked up by a Pickup Artist"
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
From my own experience with my gf, once she saw how i had a constant supply of women in my life, be it interests or even just friends she began to see me as a worthwhile guy to know.
She still has dreams about me cheating on her or leaving her, she seriously worries when ever i'm at parties or away that i may cheat, not because im untrustworthy, but like the gym class heroes song cookie jar goes 'I like girls, they like me'
She acknowledges me as a quality male, so she respects me, she treats me very well because she wants to keep me around.
Some people go to the gym just in the hope of getting more girls, sure, this works for a while but once she sees your just a built body with no personality your time is up, learning pick up is like this, you can use all the canned sh!t you can find but what happens when she wants to set up a third date? You revert to your old ways, she ****s off.
This will never keep a woman, you need personality traits or hobbies to go along side game if your planning on an LTR
To keep a high quality female, you must be a high quality male.
bukowski_merit
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I have 2 MLTRs (multiple long term relationships) established and am working on a 3rd (getting her past her fear/insecurity of sharing a man)...
MLTR#1: i've been seeing off and on for 5 years... we don't talk about other people in our lives, and we only have sex 3-4 times a month... but it wouldn't surprise me if in 10 years - we were still like this or even exclusively dating...
MLTR#2: i've been seeing about 9 months... she has a bf who is aware of me and doesn't approve (yet he's beta and won't break up with his high school sweet heart; he chooses instead to cry about it all the time to her). i have sex with this girl about 15 times a month.
Perspective MLTR#3: i know i will eventually get to agree to this; she's just not used to the idea of being with a guy and not being attached completely. we've had sex many times, but she seems reluctant to accept that i'm not going to be with her exclusively.
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It's not your fault, the poll is monumentally badly worded. It's like an homage to bad polls.bukowski_merit said:
Five To One
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How about:
-single and working on it
-have a girlfriend
-dating 2-3 women
-dating 4+ women
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Smartone84
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is that considered beyond sad?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.