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Do you guys tip the bartender?

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Usually there's always a hottie bartending, but drinks are so expensive I really don't tip, which is bad because I'm in the service industry. And I don't mean buying approval. I just feel bad at the end of the night leaving without giving a tip.
 

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If they're friendly and I'm getting good service, I usually tip $1 dollar a drink. Sometimes more if they're buying me rounds on the house.
 

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That's bad karma man. If you're in the service industry you know these people are making about 2.65 an hour. At least leave a few bucks. Plus it'll get you faster service.
 

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Tip your bardender. At least throw him or her a buck man! It's a sign of respect and appreciation. I'm actually taking up bartending, again, for carreer crafting. It's kind of a vegas thing, but If I entertained you a bit while i served you a fine ****tail...come on man tip the performer for the show!!
 

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I dont drink but I dont see the relevance of tipping the bartender.

I mean you dont tip the cook when you go out to eat, yes you leave money on the table but that's for the waitress/waiter and NOT the one that actually cooked the meal for you. The person is just getting you a drink and most of the time they are doing stuff for you JUST for the tip....plus it's JUST a drink.....lol, but whatever I dont drink and it's your money so whatever.
 

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I'm sorry, but what kind of question is this Topic Creator? Honestly, why would u not tip a bartender? Why would this determine if ur AFC or not, despite her looks? But honestly TC, if u can afford to get those expensive drinks, then u def can afford to give the bartender 20% extra.
 

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j0n, you don't tip the cook because these people are getting paid at least minimum wage to cook the food. While for some reason servers only get paid half of that and they depend on those tips. I've read somewhere and this maybe wrong, but tip stands for "To Insure Promptness".
 

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I know alot of clubs that have the option of kicking you out if you don't tip, you may say to urself well "wtf, its my choice to tip of not" but remember chances are if your at a club, there are other people outside that will gladly take your place and tip

Plus i just think its a sign of respect, like mentioned above. People notice these things, ive gotten free drinks before and better service because i do tip.

Money talks!
 

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In America you tip the people serving you. Its good manners.

Only if they are very unfriendly should you not tip
 

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10% total cost of all drinks. Not cheap, if they wanted a job that paid them decent wages they'd go elsewhere besides those tip oriented service jobs.
 

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10% total cost of all drinks. Not cheap, if they wanted a job that paid them decent wages they'd go elsewhere besides those tip oriented service jobs.
You are terrible.

Anyway, to the original poster, I can't believe someone who has worked in the service industry has to ask this question. In general, the rule is $1 per drink, sometimes I'll give $2 for 3 drinks, unless it's a fancy mixer that requires actual skill. If you can't afford to tip, you can't afford to go out.
 

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Bars and clubs are getting ridiculous. I regular domestic beer is $3 or more which is bad enough, then you're expected to tip $1 33% everytime you get a beer. Not to mention cover. I've been to the bar a 1000 times and this weekend I saw something I rarley see but it happened all night. I'd order a beer, $4 and hand the bartender a $5 and instead of bringing back the change they put it in the tip bucket. I don't like a tip to just be yanked. Then I went to a different bartender and I handed her the money for a beer and she says, "Where's my tip?..". I was like oh you're demanding a tip, t hat's new" and just gave her a tip. The thing is it was busy as can be because of a festival and people were tipping. And we're not talking about the bartender having to mix a drink open and close a tab or anything. They just getting greedy and brazen with it.
 

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Bars and clubs are getting ridiculous. I regular domestic beer is $3 or more which is bad enough, then you're expected to tip $1 33% everytime you get a beer. Not to mention cover. I've been to the bar a 1000 times and this weekend I saw something I rarley see but it happened all night. I'd order a beer, $4 and hand the bartender a $5 and instead of bringing back the change they put it in the tip bucket. I don't like a tip to just be yanked. Then I went to a different bartender and I handed her the money for a beer and she says, "Where's my tip?..". I was like oh you're demanding a tip, t hat's new" and just gave her a tip. The thing is it was busy as can be because of a festival and people were tipping. And we're not talking about the bartender having to mix a drink open and close a tab or anything. They just getting greedy and brazen with it.
Just like it's etiquette to tip $1 per drink, it's etiquette for them not to ask for a tip. They shouldn't be doing that. The bartender simply taking your change as their tip is really wrong, though. I would never go back to that person. Maybe if you catch them later, I'd say something jokingly like, "So, do you always infer a $5 on a drink means the change is yours?" If she's smart she'll say it was an accident.

Anyway...bars are expensive. Where I live, a domestic bottle is $5 or more, it's not cheap. Shots usually start at $8 ($10 for bomb shots). Blame gas prices, that's the scapegoat for everything now.
 

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Ive been working as a server at this japanese restaurant for about 2 and a half years now and I know how it feels to get tipped and NOT get tipped. We have comment cards on each of our tables for customers to judge us by and at one point I was the restaurants apparent "best server" so I would say I give good service. Thats why when I go to other restaurants, clubs or bars I always make sure to give at least 15% gratuity(thats the quota where im from) and 20% if the service was really good. And as a server i'll tell you this: Its usually the people that don't tip that we remember the most so that the next time you come in, we'll give the kitchen staff the cue to "modify" your order just a little.:cool:
 

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Effington said:
Just like it's etiquette to tip $1 per drink, it's etiquette for them not to ask for a tip. They shouldn't be doing that. The bartender simply taking your change as their tip is really wrong, though. I would never go back to that person. Maybe if you catch them later, I'd say something jokingly like, "So, do you always infer a $5 on a drink means the change is yours?" If she's smart she'll say it was an accident.

Anyway...bars are expensive. Where I live, a domestic bottle is $5 or more, it's not cheap. Shots usually start at $8 ($10 for bomb shots). Blame gas prices, that's the scapegoat for everything now.
Yeah and the worst part is at a busy bar you're not really directly tipping for good service when you do tip because it goes in a shared tip bucket. If you tip your bartender well the person might still, but not always, serve you quicker, but a lot of times it's so busy you have get a different bartender to get a drink. The servers are making plenty of money and sharing the tip pot anyway so you get little in return for big tipping.
 

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if you want them to ignore you when you go for a second round, don't tip. a lot of them do remember your face. as a side note, restaurants are worse than clubs in this regard

I've gotten free drinks toward the end of the night by tipping generously at the beginning. if you ever watch on a crowded night how hard bartenders work, they earned it

and if you can't afford a 1 dollar tip per drink, a $5 beer or $12 shot is probably already out of your budget. drink in the parking lot before you step in the club if you really need that buzz
 

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I think $1 for drink or even $1 per order (if you're ordering multiple drinks at a time) is plenty. These chicks (and dudes) are taking at least 100 orders in a night, and if everyone tipped $1 every time they ordered a drink(s), the bartender is clearing over $100 per night, plus his/her hourly wage. That is not bad pay for a service worker.

But to answer the OP's question, yes, you need to tip them something to avoid coming off like a classless cheap a--.
 

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I give a $1 a drink. You just gotta. If you don't then you can count on waiting a long time when you want to order again.
 

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Wait so it's 1 dollar per drink, so say you buy 12 drinks (Mixed,) plus entrance and maybe parking (Mostly seen in Vegas) so that's already in the 30's or 40's .....seems like a waste of money to me and I would rather IF I drank get sh1tty service then throw money away like that.....NOW if I made them actually make a mixed drink then that's different but draft and easy drinks like that seem like a waste of money.

My uncle is starting a bar and I watch him make drinks...he is teaching me little things about how to make some drinks, but in no way am I a bar tender but it's always nice to get a new skill :).
 

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