Usually there's always a hottie bartending, but drinks are so expensive I really don't tip, which is bad because I'm in the service industry. And I don't mean buying approval. I just feel bad at the end of the night leaving without giving a tip.
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You are terrible.betterthandead said:10% total cost of all drinks. Not cheap, if they wanted a job that paid them decent wages they'd go elsewhere besides those tip oriented service jobs.
Just like it's etiquette to tip $1 per drink, it's etiquette for them not to ask for a tip. They shouldn't be doing that. The bartender simply taking your change as their tip is really wrong, though. I would never go back to that person. Maybe if you catch them later, I'd say something jokingly like, "So, do you always infer a $5 on a drink means the change is yours?" If she's smart she'll say it was an accident.ketostix said:Bars and clubs are getting ridiculous. I regular domestic beer is $3 or more which is bad enough, then you're expected to tip $1 33% everytime you get a beer. Not to mention cover. I've been to the bar a 1000 times and this weekend I saw something I rarley see but it happened all night. I'd order a beer, $4 and hand the bartender a $5 and instead of bringing back the change they put it in the tip bucket. I don't like a tip to just be yanked. Then I went to a different bartender and I handed her the money for a beer and she says, "Where's my tip?..". I was like oh you're demanding a tip, t hat's new" and just gave her a tip. The thing is it was busy as can be because of a festival and people were tipping. And we're not talking about the bartender having to mix a drink open and close a tab or anything. They just getting greedy and brazen with it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah and the worst part is at a busy bar you're not really directly tipping for good service when you do tip because it goes in a shared tip bucket. If you tip your bartender well the person might still, but not always, serve you quicker, but a lot of times it's so busy you have get a different bartender to get a drink. The servers are making plenty of money and sharing the tip pot anyway so you get little in return for big tipping.Effington said:Just like it's etiquette to tip $1 per drink, it's etiquette for them not to ask for a tip. They shouldn't be doing that. The bartender simply taking your change as their tip is really wrong, though. I would never go back to that person. Maybe if you catch them later, I'd say something jokingly like, "So, do you always infer a $5 on a drink means the change is yours?" If she's smart she'll say it was an accident.
Anyway...bars are expensive. Where I live, a domestic bottle is $5 or more, it's not cheap. Shots usually start at $8 ($10 for bomb shots). Blame gas prices, that's the scapegoat for everything now.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.