I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.Damage360 said:It's like fishing with dynamite. Not using it is a huge mistake. Use the "I have to take this to text I'm at work" line after a few messages.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ha, yeah, agreed.Die Hard said:Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.
Explain, please?
In all honesty though, i've only gotten a couple bites there that didn't amount to anything...thelastmanonearth said:Nope, it's a blind dating app and I'm pretty sure 80% of the profiles are dead, it's almost as bad as howaboutwe.com app and that at least has a profile.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!SgtSplacker said:In the Miami area....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I certainly would not recommend online dating to the exclusion of anything else. TBH I only use dating sites when i'm at work and can't do anything else, just like I am right now. What kind of fool will pass on a social gathering to stay home alone on POF? What a miserable existence!om1xr said:If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!
as for online dating sites and apps it's not my thing because social circles/gatherings and events are more rich with quality and hot girls but to each his own!
OP good luck with that!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.