That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.Damage360 said:It's like fishing with dynamite. Not using it is a huge mistake. Use the "I have to take this to text I'm at work" line after a few messages.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ha, yeah, agreed.Die Hard said:Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.
Explain, please?
In all honesty though, i've only gotten a couple bites there that didn't amount to anything...thelastmanonearth said:Nope, it's a blind dating app and I'm pretty sure 80% of the profiles are dead, it's almost as bad as howaboutwe.com app and that at least has a profile.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!SgtSplacker said:In the Miami area....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I certainly would not recommend online dating to the exclusion of anything else. TBH I only use dating sites when i'm at work and can't do anything else, just like I am right now. What kind of fool will pass on a social gathering to stay home alone on POF? What a miserable existence!om1xr said:If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!
as for online dating sites and apps it's not my thing because social circles/gatherings and events are more rich with quality and hot girls but to each his own!
OP good luck with that!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.