You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.Damage360 said:It's like fishing with dynamite. Not using it is a huge mistake. Use the "I have to take this to text I'm at work" line after a few messages.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ha, yeah, agreed.Die Hard said:Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.
Explain, please?
In all honesty though, i've only gotten a couple bites there that didn't amount to anything...thelastmanonearth said:Nope, it's a blind dating app and I'm pretty sure 80% of the profiles are dead, it's almost as bad as howaboutwe.com app and that at least has a profile.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!SgtSplacker said:In the Miami area....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I certainly would not recommend online dating to the exclusion of anything else. TBH I only use dating sites when i'm at work and can't do anything else, just like I am right now. What kind of fool will pass on a social gathering to stay home alone on POF? What a miserable existence!om1xr said:If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!
as for online dating sites and apps it's not my thing because social circles/gatherings and events are more rich with quality and hot girls but to each his own!
OP good luck with that!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.