Just wondering. Well, not really just wondering. I met this cute girl at work and wouldn't mind asking her out. Don't know if she's single though. I'm thinking of trying to get her to come out partying with me this weekend, but don't know if she will (she said she had tons of homework to do, and she works most of the weekend).
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Do you guys bother trying to figure out if a girl's single before you ask her out?
- Thread starter Kal0051
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
Does it matter? Even if she was with somebody else, chances are she's just waiting for another dude to mess with.Kal0051 said:
If a girl is pretty 99% of the times she isn't really single.
She may not have a guy whom she can bestow and slap a "boyfriend" title on him (thus fvck a guy without being labeled a slvt) but if she needs a hard d1ck she has plenty of "guy acquaintances" or "guy friends" who are willing to "hang out for a bit" (aka fvcking) with no questions asked.
You are just the next swinging d1ck waiting in line so that's the correct term to assume.
She may not have a guy whom she can bestow and slap a "boyfriend" title on him (thus fvck a guy without being labeled a slvt) but if she needs a hard d1ck she has plenty of "guy acquaintances" or "guy friends" who are willing to "hang out for a bit" (aka fvcking) with no questions asked.
You are just the next swinging d1ck waiting in line so that's the correct term to assume.
I always ask them if they are single. Most are not, but they lie. But I asked, and I can live with myself. Always ask. Don't waste time on emotionally unavailable women. Unless you just want to get laid. Then go ahead and fuvk everything in site.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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No, I don't, I talk to her like I want to.
Hidden-Hand
Don Juan
I personally do not. If they arent single they'll let you know if they want you to know. Plus alot of women with boyfriends, finaces, and such will mess around with other guys so w/e. And does it really even matter? I mean if your only looking for a 'good time' and not a LTR then it doesnt matter much now does it?
I was in a long distance relationship and had my girlfriend, whom I loved, stolen out from under me by a guy she was going to school with. I was devastated and heartbroken, and I would never wish that experience on my worst enemy. Because of that, I'll never hit on a "taken" woman; maybe I'm a p*ssy but its my code of ethics and I stand by it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lol, I have to laugh at your comment. Because tonight I was chilling with a couple girl I am into and one of them mentioned she was on a "break" from her boyfriend and we scheduled a date. Though I am kinda confused at one point. She and the other girl went to wait for her mom to pick her up and she told me if I went to wait with them than we wouldn't hang out. It was kinda weird, any ideas on that?1337 said:
Hmmmm.... sounds like she's pulling the ol' power play... her mum might have a million and one questions about who you are and sounds like she's trying to avoid that situation. Don't chase that or you'll just yield more power, let her come back to you on the date now that it's been arranged. And get some other chicks lined up to stop yourself falling into that oneitis rut.Kal0051 said:
Yeah I used to be like that then I realized that the problem isn't with the guy that she's cheating with but rather with her. Girls that are down to cheat on their boyfriends are going to do it anyways, regardless of whether it's with you or someone else. They're ****ed up in the head, and so you can absolve yourself of all responsibility for her cheating.Von S said:
As for the thread title, why does it matter?
T-Roy
Don Juan
I'll ask sometimes, but not 'cause I care. It's a good way to gauge their interest in you. Dependin' on how the answer. But I only ask if I want a shortcut to finding out that doesn't come along as creepy. Just ask the woman out, if anything it'll be an ego boost to her, and a slight disappointment to you. Unless you're obsessed with her that is the worst that can happen.