Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do you find women predictable?

00Kevin

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How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?

What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?

I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AlexTheGreat

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I'm with you man, once you start looking at the right place, you see patterns emerging in all their actions. And to tell you the truth, they're even more predictable than men, cuz they've never been forced to "try something different".
 

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00Kevin said:
How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?

What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?

I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
Oh, they're unpredictable all right... predictably so.

But to be fair, they say the same thing about us. I can't even remember how many times I've heard (either directly from or from another source) where a girl has not known what the heck is going on in MY head, too.
 

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Sadly yes...

I can read through them more easily as of late, and it makes things less exciting.

Girls can be understood. I think once you understand psychology, it's a lot easier to decipher all the crap.
 

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Predictable yes, understandable, not at all. If that makes sense.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't know if what realsmoothie said is something to be proud of, but obviously predictability is a major relationship killer.

That is because...

Life is a journey - climbing new obstacles to reach new heights. Once an obstacle has been conquered, it's time to look for the next obstacle. The process never ends. Predictability is a sure sign that the challenge may be over. Time to look for the next challenge to greater heights.

Spontaneity is one of the most important aspects involved in keeping a relationship.
 

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Partnering in to fight through life together is OK, but the problem is that maintaining the correct and natural balance (man dominates, woman submits) in our western media infiltrated society is a constant battle. I think the end of a great many LTRs is just that the man eventually loses the fight or decides it's not worth the effort and moves on.

Finding a woman who understands that she is wired to complement and not compete with a man is a huge prize. If she also can see that societal pressure needs to be constantly fought against all the better. Western girls have mostly been ruined by puberty though.
 

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I find human behaviour predictable, in general, men and women. Of course there are a few that cant be predicted and do unexpected things. Im one of those people.

Also, cats, and dogs are predictable, unless they are crazy.


Their behaviour is predictable in context that if you know what they are doing now, you can predict what they will be doing later. So you gotta get a read on them, and have knowledge of psychology to know what could possibly come next. Police are able to read body language. Sales persons are able to read you over the phone.
 

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Well, i think we all find attraction behaviors predictable after spending some time at this site. I mean, that is like one of the major things here, finding IOI's and acting on them.
 

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banGbro said:
I find human behaviour predictable, in general, men and women. Of course there are a few that cant be predicted and do unexpected things. Im one of those people.
I knew you would say that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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00Kevin said:
How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?
I will never say I completely understand anything. I think it's more down-to-earth to say that I understand them more than most men around me (thanks to this forum!), but I still learn new things every day.

00Kevin said:
What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?
Mostly yes.

00Kevin said:
I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
I do not agree either!
 
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