"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do you find women predictable?

00Kevin

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How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?

What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?

I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AlexTheGreat

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I'm with you man, once you start looking at the right place, you see patterns emerging in all their actions. And to tell you the truth, they're even more predictable than men, cuz they've never been forced to "try something different".
 

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00Kevin said:
How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?

What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?

I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
Oh, they're unpredictable all right... predictably so.

But to be fair, they say the same thing about us. I can't even remember how many times I've heard (either directly from or from another source) where a girl has not known what the heck is going on in MY head, too.
 

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Sadly yes...

I can read through them more easily as of late, and it makes things less exciting.

Girls can be understood. I think once you understand psychology, it's a lot easier to decipher all the crap.
 

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Predictable yes, understandable, not at all. If that makes sense.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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blueguy

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I don't know if what realsmoothie said is something to be proud of, but obviously predictability is a major relationship killer.

That is because...

Life is a journey - climbing new obstacles to reach new heights. Once an obstacle has been conquered, it's time to look for the next obstacle. The process never ends. Predictability is a sure sign that the challenge may be over. Time to look for the next challenge to greater heights.

Spontaneity is one of the most important aspects involved in keeping a relationship.
 

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Partnering in to fight through life together is OK, but the problem is that maintaining the correct and natural balance (man dominates, woman submits) in our western media infiltrated society is a constant battle. I think the end of a great many LTRs is just that the man eventually loses the fight or decides it's not worth the effort and moves on.

Finding a woman who understands that she is wired to complement and not compete with a man is a huge prize. If she also can see that societal pressure needs to be constantly fought against all the better. Western girls have mostly been ruined by puberty though.
 

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I find human behaviour predictable, in general, men and women. Of course there are a few that cant be predicted and do unexpected things. Im one of those people.

Also, cats, and dogs are predictable, unless they are crazy.


Their behaviour is predictable in context that if you know what they are doing now, you can predict what they will be doing later. So you gotta get a read on them, and have knowledge of psychology to know what could possibly come next. Police are able to read body language. Sales persons are able to read you over the phone.
 

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Well, i think we all find attraction behaviors predictable after spending some time at this site. I mean, that is like one of the major things here, finding IOI's and acting on them.
 

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banGbro said:
I find human behaviour predictable, in general, men and women. Of course there are a few that cant be predicted and do unexpected things. Im one of those people.
I knew you would say that.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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00Kevin said:
How many of you can honestly say that they understand women?
I will never say I completely understand anything. I think it's more down-to-earth to say that I understand them more than most men around me (thanks to this forum!), but I still learn new things every day.

00Kevin said:
What I mean is do you find them to be predictable?
Mostly yes.

00Kevin said:
I know that popular culture promotes the idea that women can't be understood but I don't agree.
I do not agree either!
 
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